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i am always one of the first to chime in on relationship questions--like i am some old hand at it or something but....

i just saw my ex walking by her parents house--and i can tell something is wrong--for those who dont know i spent 6 yrs with this girl and was going to marry her and our break-up really tore me up inside

she was walking by herself, and i know that she has been taking the 6 hr drive home every week on her one day off to come home, and she has battle bulimia for 5 yrs and her face looked bloated---so i know something is wrong---what should i do???? i am really conflicted--she took my heart and tore the son of a bitch out and jumped on it--so i am a little conflicted? but i know something is wrong--should i reach out to her--a part of me will always love this girl and will always want to help her--she was the only person that i ever trusted---that might be the case on why i am so jaded about women---i told all my deepest secrets and dreams to her---know matter about all the bad shit she has done to me--and trust me its a lot--i always look at her as that innocent girl that i fell in love with on my parents couch the day i met her--and i am serious i fell in love with her the day i met her--much to the disappointment to my sister who was her friend, and basically ended that friendship the day we met


HELP ME BOYS BEFORE I DO SOMETHING STUPID

contact her!!!!!!!!! pray and ask for guidance thats my advice!!!!!

If you know that you are truely over her.. Then lend a hand if you can... But if feelings for this girl come to the forefront again.. then don't do it.. It's not worth putting yourself through it again.. You already know the outcome.

I just got divorced by someone who meant the same thing to me, sounded very familiar. All I can say is like dpsquat said. Pray ask for guidance. You might want to contact her just to ask about her and see if you can lend some support. If nothing else than for your own peace of mind on it, like you said, she meant a lot to you and you might feel bad about not doing anything later on. That is if you have the strength emotionally. I know it would be very hard for me. I hope everything works out OK for you.

basskiller said:

If you know that you are truely over her.. Then lend a hand if you can... But if feelings for this girl come to the forefront again.. then don't do it.. It's not worth putting yourself through it again.. You already know the outcome.

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see thats the thing bass--its been almost a yr since i have even spoken to her--and i still think about her from time to time--i would like to believe i am over her--but this woman is the only person to ever have this kind of effect on me---we broke up for a stint about 2 1/2 yrs ago and she was dating some guy and was really purging hard and called me on good friday crying and we were back together on easter--and i was even dating a wonderful girl who i hurt at the time---shit is just fucked up---i did email her but i have to leave it alone--i cant be her crutch all the time when she needs something--for my own sanity--christ i need to be strong this time

Why put yourself through it?-Why talk to her and bring up all the crap from your past?-You can't go back and you'll only end up feeling like crap all over again!-I've been divorced for 10 yrs-took me years to finally put it behind me and I saw her once in ten years-who knows how long it would take if I saw her often and was worried or concerned about her!!-Don't get me wrong-I don't wish anything bad for her-she's just no longer my concern!!-Old saying"Let sleeping dogs lie"-seems appropos

I know it's gotta be tough but it sounds like you know already what you have to do when you said "she took my heart and tore the son of a bitch out and jumped on it-" and then next post........"but i have to leave it alone.....for my own sanity"
You've worked hard to get yourself to this point of getting over her,stay strong and leave the past behind.

I have to agree with DecaDent on this one. I recently had a girl do this to me and I know that I would feel the same as you if I were in a similar situation. I care about her therefore I would want to help. But why do that knowing that her feelings for you are not the same, otherwise she wouldn't have done that to you in the beginning. Anyway, DecaDent said it right. Let her work out her own problems.

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If you aren't over her she will mess you up again. Not necessarliy on purpose. Try and move on. She should have her family to support her.

OOOHHH...shitty brother... You wouldn't go back and pat the dog the bit you, would ya? I was in the same damn situation 3.5 yrs ago! Let me tell ya something... nothing good will ever come from it! It is the right mixture for a batch to kick your own ass! After it is all said and done you will have wished you kicked yourself in the NUTS! But for one reason or another you wake up on the wrong side of the bed (like I did) thinking it is the right side...and feel compeled to fix the past (which since the begining of time all men that have tried, failed to understand the ways of the female mind) and have only ended up sticking it up their ass afterwards. One problem always leads to another! Just ease in and ease out... but that is like grabbing the honey comb out of a beez nest. Don't feel like it is your fault she felt like taking a 6 hour ride. That is the female mind for you. its a trap>>> she is trying to ambush you. Damn brother ware blinders! You cant be clutering up you mind with the past... you need to get ride of that shit. The heart is a hard thing to be fixing all the time. Oh man it is time for me to take my injection and get myself to the gym.... you just gave me something to focus on for that extra pump..... brother best of luck to you!!! remember... PIMPn8EZ! FIX YOURSELF FIRST!!!