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deathrow
12-30-2002, 06:01 PM
Ok guys plain and simple..there's this girl that I love (my fiance) we're getting married in a year or two...and umm her family doesn't like me very much because of different religion, especially her mom..her mom is not happy seeing her daughter being with me..so its really messed up...her dad is kinda cool with everything but her mom bitches at her all the time. She is an orthodox, and I'm muslim..don't think that Im some middle eastern dude hahah :D hell no my pops are from Europe and came long time ago here in the US but it happens that I'm muslim..so..now we are having some talks with her mom..I myself have a mom and a dad...and the only way she's not gonna break hers family hearts is if I change my religion being a Catholic..so I agreed that Im gonna change my religion on Catholic..side..it takes alot of guys to do that and courage but its all fine...then..I know my parents will be pissed off...I'm sure I'll lose their respect or who knows maybe I can say goodbye to them..but we really love eachother..and we want to be together for the rest of our lives..is just this religion issue...that we have here..althrough I don't think it matters as long as someone loves eachother like we do. So, I told her I'll do it..but I'll keep it a secret until we get married because I'm still living in my parents house, I dont want any problems coming as for right now. Later, we will live on our own and no families will interfear....I told her I'll do anything no matter what just to save this block of love that we have...even if I have to change my religion (being a catholic). So I need some input on all this..I really don't know who to ask about all this. Is it safe, how's it done, have anyone else done this before...and so on...thanks alot....wishing you all the best in upcoming NEW YEAR 2003.. Good bless you all....

deathrow
12-30-2002, 06:16 PM
bump !!#@$%

Fina Addict
12-30-2002, 06:26 PM
follow your heart.

Badgermoon
12-30-2002, 08:39 PM
I agree with fina Addict. I was raised catholic but I don't go to the church or anything. They won't come and get you in the middle of the night :D All they do is try to scare you into making your kids Catholic by telling you that if you don't you and they will go to hell. Went to a Catholic school for a while when I was in elementry school. After the Nuns got done with me I think I could take 40 lashes-well laid on, as they used to say in the old days. :D

dedprez*
12-30-2002, 08:47 PM
thats a tuffy...do what U GUYS want...not what others want.

warchild
12-30-2002, 08:54 PM
Bro, I am not muslim, I am roman catholic and know somewhat what you feel..I was dating a Turkish woman, and she is Muslim..and her parents wanted me to convert, but she didnt care..I told them flat out..IF we get married and have children, the children would be catholic..after all, they would have an italian last name! her parents were phoney boloney muslims..they ate pork and drank liquor..So we broke up! DUDE, NEVER give up your beliefs!

warchild

midwtchamp
12-30-2002, 10:10 PM
Love is pretty strong man, but I have to agree with Warchild. Never ever give up what you believe in....if you believe in something then she/they will have to deal with it....good luck bro!

Armageddon
12-31-2002, 04:36 AM
Have to agree with the guys. I am Roman Catholic, born and raised. Hell, my mom works for the church. However I'm not big into practicing my religion. Don't get me wrong, I talk to GOD all the time, but I don't see the need in being in a building with a bunch of dipshits that are lying to themselves and GOD about how they feel. I can tell him the truth from where ever I'm at. My family has never given me problems about stuff like this as there excepting. I'm a white guy that has brought ALITTLE of EVERYTHING home at some point or another. If they really practiced being Catholic's or even Christians they would except you for who you are. Fuck them. If you do go through with it, it is a lengthy process that might turn alittle difficult. Good luck bro!

viper10139
12-31-2002, 10:24 AM
hey bro listen up....everybody should know my situation with what's going on....with me and x-girl now.....so listen I am pentacostal...and she was catholic....and I don't think anyone, and I mean anyone should ever give up their religion or what u believe in...I don't think u should have to give in like that....when things were good between me and my girl...she wanted a catholic wedding....I said no.......trust me...bro....tell your girl that u love her..but u also care a lot about your religion the family will just get over it...u have to be happy...... Good luck....and with it bro...I agree I talk to GOD everyday...and I hope everything goes well for you......

Badgermoon
12-31-2002, 10:32 AM
My mom converted to Catholic from Methodist. Not much difference there as in your case. My former step-son married a catholic girl recently. I don't think he became a Catholic, just had to go to some classes and talk to the Preist. If having a wedding in the church is what this switching is all about... I would check into it further. I bet you wouldn't have to go to that extreme. In the end, take what Viper said above to heart. You don't need to be anywhere special to talk to God, and it makes no difference what religion (if any) you practice.

pumpseeker
12-31-2002, 11:41 AM
Sorry, I can't really relate. I haven't been to church in years and I don't even think about religion. But, I've known families that have split over such issues. I can't see why people get so obsessive about this. That sucks. Tell her mom to chill and accept you for who you are.

warchild
12-31-2002, 12:40 PM
I remember your situation..i commented on that...but its different from your religion..cathoilcs and penacostals are still christians..Muslims are not..so he is a very different situation..If I remarry, it has to be in a protestant church, because catholic churches will not do that for me since I am divorced..no big deal to me!

warchild

deathrow
12-31-2002, 03:42 PM
Thanks guys for your support. Right now, her father as well as the mother of her mom which would be grandmother supports me and my fiance too. Its just her mom, well her grandmother will try to talk to her..I really don't understand why religion matters so much. Its the issue made by some people long..long time ago..and now because of it everyone needs to follow that. I am not religious person, but I do believe that there is a power which is GOD. I love this girl so much, I would die for her and she would to the same to me. I would never,ever be able to find a women like this one..so I'm willing to do anything to keep her. But she told me yesterday no matter what happens me and her will be together and will get married.. even if she has to move from her parents..again thanks for support and..happy new year to everyone....thanks again...

Dennis C.

jake steed
12-31-2002, 09:27 PM
I say if they don't like you the way you are fuckem'

kydquick43
01-01-2003, 12:06 AM
Do for yourself
My mother wanted and Italian girl for me in the worst way. I married a Colombian chick and let me tell you I made the right choice. As long as the two of you are happy. SCREW EVERYONE!!!

warchild
01-02-2003, 10:45 PM
Bro, parents have lots of influence on children..the age old question is: what will u raise the child as?? Bro, believe me, almost everyone thought that one girl that got away was the best..beleive me, I am 40yrs old and I always find another one! Suck it up and take it on the chin like a man!! once you hit the sack with another broad, you will forget her! DONT EVER TAKE ANY SHIT!! we all been there! My advice to you..get on a nice bulking cycle, then a cutter for the summer and go to beach and all things will fall into place!

warchild

mcinfo
01-02-2003, 11:05 PM
Get married outside the church.
Think about the fact that her mom is very un-forgiving.
Remind her that Jesus wasn't Catholic either.

You’re marrying her not her Mom.
So how often will you have to deal with her mom?
I have a great relationship with my folks and only live a few miles away and still only see them one a week if that. Move to a different City – Time heals all wounds.