Getting married soon. Need advice.

Been about 4 weeks now since I started my cycle. I've taken a beating over this topic, so im inclined not to say anything more than its getting very difficult now. 4 more weeks to go.

punch yourself in the junk.. that'll keep ya straight.. lol .. or bent.. i guess.. LOL ... good luck bro.. keep strong! in every sense!

I've was married to my first wife 17 years. Never cheated. Married to my current wife 5 years and still have not cheated. I like to "train" my wife in the way I like sex. She also "trains" me in the way she likes sex. Be honest and let them know you're on gear. The sex is mind blowing, lol. Also, too much shit going on out there now. In my day you could get a shot. Now it kills ya. Just my 2cc's.

Stickler* said:

punch yourself in the junk.. !

Click to expand...

Eventually she will.

Unionlineman said:

I've was married to my first wife 17 years. Never cheated. Married to my current wife 5 years and still have not cheated. I like to "train" my wife in the way I like sex. She also "trains" me in the way she likes sex. Be honest and let them know you're on gear. The sex is mind blowing, lol. Also, too much shit going on out there now. In my day you could get a shot. Now it kills ya. Just my 2cc's.

Click to expand...

true, bringing home strays tends to, more than not, result in less than par standards in the bedroom. Unless of course you suck in bed and have no standards yourself.

You dont know what they like, they dont know what you like, neither really gives a shit what the other wants anyways, and god only knows where they have been.

Exactly, Drew.

our sex is awesome. And plenty. Its just when Im on cycle. I turn into an addict.

But im really working on it. Infact, you guys would be proud. Really turned down a prime opportunity this weekend for some hot ass strange.

It was almost like a porno. We where working on a second house together (long story). Anyway, we just started, and my wife went to pick up some paint, then stopped to check on the kids and have lunch with the grand parents. So she’s going to be gone for atleast an hour. About 5 minutes after she leaves, her best friend pulls up. Her best friend was planning on working on the house with us for the whole day. (we’ll call her stacy).

Stacy and I have sorta a past together. Nothing big, but when I bounced at a bar, we kinda made out, when we both where drunk. Decided not to say anything ofcourse. Usually nothing weird going on since- but we kinda have always had this thing going. She’s not crazy or nothing, just haven’t tapped it in the past cause of the best friend boundary. But she’s hot and would defiantly be boner of the month on any calendar.

Anyway, Stacey walks in the house and straight towards me. (hind sight – she knew wife just left) started to come down the ladder and kinda turned to say hey, and her face is right a my crotch. She looks at my crotch and then up to me and say’s, so where’s (wife)? With a big grin. I seriously almost creamed my pants. I had to get off the damn ladder or Id fall. I didn’t want her to feel turned down so I gave her a big hug and kinda flirted a little bit. Nothing bad. It was fun, but well within the limits. I told her that the wife was coming back in like 10 minutes and we needed to get her busy.

So anyway, That’s my story. It’s the god honest real/ true story. Im getting better. I seriously dont know if I did the right thing. I just hope when Im 80 I dont look back and say "I should have tapped that ass" lol. But I feel good.

worst part is- Im working with stacy for the rest of the day.. She's got these skin tight blue jeans on with a tight white t-shit. Boobs and ass just looking so fine.

Get home at night, wife is on the rag.

just remember, its a challenge for you to NOT and for her to GET.. enjoy the chase, and use it as the biggest ego boost out there.. not that you need but feeding the ego AND doing the right thing at the same time is a great way to feel even better about your efforts at the gym! ...

the wife's friend? dont even want to go there.

but why is it that your girl's friends flirt with you? My girl's friends (some of them) do it too. At least I sure would call it flirting. What a bunch of bitches. I wouldnt flirt with my buddies girl. Maybe it one of those differences between men and women.

or its a great test to ultimately have some shit over your head or thiers... stay away, never shit where you eat..

Trying man. I dont understand or believe it either. I mean these two grew up together. There not as close now as they where say 10 years ago, but they've known eachother for 20 years!! Only thing I can think of is I kinda dropped her best friend to be with my wife. Maybe that created this complex for her??

In the back of my mind I was thinking that this was some kind of set up. That my woman is testing me. But that was until her best friend started emailing me. (kinda left that out) we've been emailing a lot back and forth for a couple days now.

I know I shouldnt have any contact with her, but after sunday... I think she needed to contact me. She hasnt been hitting on me, just kinda normal conversation. Kinda like she knew she crossed the line.

nice non-abrasive (sp?) approach to keeping it real

seriously, if i was your wife i would kick that bitches ass, i dont mind if my friends flirt or my hubby does, ( he is always making the 3-some comment), but to actually want to go there all the way ? what the fuck kind of friend is that ?

First and formemost, its not in your nature to be faithful. Some people are like that, men and women. Its good to see you realize that that is a defect in your character and want to better yourself, however, if you think you are being faithful by not getting physical but have fucked the shit out of her in your head a thousand times, you are very mistaken. Why torture yourself like that, you might as well hit it and deal with the consequences. Its like relapse, you pick up where you left off and it is ALWAYS worse than the last time you picked up. So if its not her best friend now, it could be her mother tomorrow.
You need to get out of that marriage/relaionship you are in at least until you are:
1- ready to settle down
2- have more respect for your woman
3- are sick and tired of blaming your flaws on your gear usage

Either way, best of luck to you.


nvs

well, I admit that we've had sex a zillion times already (in my head). But I actually feel less attracted to her now that I've gotten to know her -lol.

I think its more probable that Id have sex with someone else instead. But im seriously trying to break this habit. So far, so good.

Ill keep you guys posted.

n.v.s is right, some people are just not able to change and you will probably be one of them ! does your girlfriend check your computer or have your email pass word because that is a good way to get caught red handed.... your not on my space are you ??? lol lol lol

I do believe I can change, just need to make it a priority.

It does make sense for a genetic program to inhibit some type of multiple exchange to guaranty the existence of our species. Not saying it exists- just saying it makes sence.

I am on myspace, but I leave check the comments before they get posted. We had internet at home, but its currently inactive. I wouldn’t have this dialog at home anyway.

thta damn my space is alsways causing trouble.. lol. well i dont think so really but you should here my hubby rant and rave about the dangers of it, although i do admit it is pretty damn addicting, and a great way to keep in touch w/ alot of people you mabey shouldnt.

I know what you mean about myspace. I used it for those purposes initially. But, I honestly haven’t been on in about 6 months. Im thinking about deleting my profile. Just cause I don’t really want any contact at the moment.

Nothing new to report. Been a really good boy. Best friend and I are still secretly emailing back and forth – but more for entertainment than anything.