when i worked around men men would watch other men look at women. If a man look at a women they could relate to a glance because they would think the same thing as they looked at a man look at another women. I would feel very comfortable around someone i would be verytouchy and warm. If i felt the other person didnt look at me likethat thers no threat... so i could be like that other men would look at that as if someone was like that with me he was doing what they thought about when they looked at me. Because thats what they were doing with someone else. There was no feelings there but thats not what people wanted it to be. The person they wanted me to be close to that i was no closer to than anyone else .....he wasnt a threat because i felt nothing. So i didnt look a men like that. Same thing with gay people if there is no feelings it doesnt mean anything. ....Its easier being short, old, fat and ugly. A company like Ballys doesnt have you represent them in the Miss America pageant because your ugly. Represent them as a spokes person in united way. because you can speak project yourself or carry yourself with poise. So you cant help how other people see you. You cant punish people because they're well liked.