Why Marriages Don't Work???

I'm at that age where all of my friends are getting married and sitting out kids. I'll ask them why they ate doing it. They never have a better answer than, "umm cause". It's sad really. Never mind all the reasons they fail. So many people do it simply because that's what society says you're supposed to do.

dreww said:

at my age, and couples near my age, I see complacency being the problem. I've seen so many people get married that are my friends and their marriages fail. Cheating may be a problem with younger couples, but I think complacency is a bigger problem. They date, move in together, get accounts together, get married, have a kid...then....well you've done it. but your only in your 20's? Not your 30-40's like your parents were when they reached all those goals. what to do now? start all over. Get a divorce, start whoring around again, sew your "wild oats" again, meet someone, start dating, move in together, and you know the rest.

i say why get married? I know many couples that did fine until they got married. couples that move too fast, usually crash too fast.

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Exactly. My second wife and I didn't have any troubles until marriage and a kid were in the equation. When we were dating I could always just leave if I felt like it, but then after marriage and a baby it is not so easy. Many times these days EVEN IF a man can complete support a woman she will not want to relinquish control of anything. It is even worse if she uses your child a a bargaining chip against you.

Compare that to the older generations who had a lot lower divorce rate although it did occur. People kept to their business then and there was less police involvement in family lives (some times a good and bad thing) . The stigma for adulterers and unnecessary divorcees was not a very good one so that was a factor. As well as a general societal upholding of core family values and sovereignty. Although people of those times spent more time and effort on everything, and I think that is what it boils down to , time and effort. The more time and effort you put in to a relationship the better it gets, and you cant make some one do that, they have to want to. These days people are so used to instant everything that work for something so non tangible like a relationship seems ghastly.

I will finish this with saying that in my opinion it IS NOT in the best interest of a young man of these times to get married, ESPECIALLY quickly. In some ways it is effectively signing your rights away.

You know what i heard there, a lot of Ba Humbugs lmao grouchy fuckers, lol.

With great humility, at my age of 56, being a lifelong bachelor, I have pondered this many times, while thinking I was missing something. I would be lying if I said that if I allowed myself, I could easily get lonely. My GF of on/off off 9yrs has turned religious and sex is like turning clocks, twice a year. Not kidding. My GF claims she jacks it daily but wont have sex unless I commit, arghhhhh, not gonna under those circumstances. So she is moving at some point 3 hrs away. We'll see.

I have had more than one married buddy stop by unannounced, and say "Gee I cruise by yr street and think Bills just kicked back, chilling watching TV or doing whatever, and I have my old lady with her constant nagging and 2 rugrats who always need something and damn I'm jeolous as hell!" Its then I'm glad I'm unmarried despite unloading in my left hand on a reg basis!!

The Survivor said:

With great humility, at my age of 56, being a lifelong bachelor, I have pondered this many times, while thinking I was missing something. I would be lying if I said that if I allowed myself, I could easily get lonely. My GF of on/off off 9yrs has turned religious and sex is like turning clocks, twice a year. Not kidding. My GF claims she jacks it daily but wont have sex unless I commit, arghhhhh, not gonna under those circumstances. So she is moving at some point 3 hrs away. We'll see.

I have had more than one married buddy stop by unannounced, and say "Gee I cruise by yr street and think Bills just kicked back, chilling watching TV or doing whatever, and I have my old lady with her constant nagging and 2 rugrats who always need something and damn I'm jeolous as hell!" Its then I'm glad I'm unmarried despite unloading in my left hand on a reg basis!!

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I ponder what it would be like to live an awesome bachelors life like you brutha! As ive been with my wife over 16 years, and yes its fucking monotonous , but i also know if i ever fall ill, at least , or i hope anyhow lol, my wife will be there for me, spoon feed me baby mush, change my I.V. bag, lol wipe my ass , drive me to chemo therapy, help me get dressed,

i know that is some downer shit, but for some reason and im not sure if its me or others are like this, but im always waiting for somehting bad, or think awful thoughts all the time of tragedy lol, so knowing i have that monotonous , day in and day out pussy there, is actually somewhat comforting to me.

Truth is, the grass is no greener on either side if you ask me, your side nor my side! its just what were each able, willing or wanting to put up with or do with out lives i guess! but yeah being a bachelor right now in my life, when im older, have my shit together, would be pretty fucking killer lmao id run through pussy like it was a field

I guess I'm just lucky. I have the most amazing wife. She is my best friend my everything I need and want all rolled into one beautiful package. And i would do absolutely anything to make her happy. Glad she don't want much lol, but seriously fellows we all have to believe in something why not it be that person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. It took me a very long time to get to this place and by non means was it easy. Just lose all the negativity. Happy is so much more fun. First off you have to truly believe in love and that starts with yourself. I honestly hope and pray that you all may find that right one for you, cause I promise she is out there looking for you. It is hard and their will be tuff times, but that's going to happen period, but why not share those times with someone who truly has your back even when your wrong.

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I will admit I'm pretty lucky. My wife and I have a great son, been together for almost twenty yrs and we are both very sexual together. Don't get me wrong we argue but are very loyal to each other and are always there for and help each other. I won't trade her in for anything and wouldn't even think of it.

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Why don't marriages work?...Simple...Two words..."irreconcilable differences"...

I am a second award winner of the big D certification. The first time, I was just young and stupid and had no business getting married. I should have listened to my family. Although, I have to say, my son came along because of that marriage, so for that I'm grateful. Other than that, I wish I could have gone back and listened to my family and said hell no to marriage. My second wife, well, we were together for 17 years. We were separated 3 times, she got pregnant twice and lost both, and nobody can say I damn sure didn't try in the end. It was when she got pregnant the third time that I called it game over for good. Seeing how I was fixed for 6 years at that point and couldn't make a baby to save my life, I knew that I wasn't the baby daddy. That's when I said it's not worth trying anymore. Damn shame because she was gorgeous and could cook her ass off.
Now, with all of that being said, I think I'm not marriage material. I have faulty DNA and I'm genetically disadvantaged. Dad has been married 5 times, mom married 4 times, grandparents each married 3 times (twice to the same people) So as I see it, I should've followed my initial instinct, and avoid marriage like the plague. I used to always tell my mom when I was a kid that I'm never getting married.

Marriages don't work because it goes completely against our animalistic nature. We want to fuck fuck then fuck some more and look the same ole watering hole gets tiresome after a while. The lure of the strange will always win out when you get caught in a pinch. For the most part men are pretty rational "unless we are on tren for too long then shit can get dicey." Women are irrational as fuck and there's a reason they don't rule the world because they should since they have the pussy. Women are EMOTIONAL and they make all of their decisions based on emotion. If they are pissed off then every decision they make will be a pissed off fucked up decision. If they are happy then it's unicorns, rainbows and blow jobs all around.

No matter how hot a woman is there is a guy somewhere that if she knocks on his door he will jump out the fucking window to get away from that cray cray bitch.


Marriage is the hardest job you will ever have and no matter how hard you want your marriage to succede, sometimes there isn't enough on the other side.
Both parties have to be selfless for a marriage to work well.
If you have kids do not stay in a shitty marriage because of them becuase they will feel the tension and end up fucked up because of it.

Ohh shit I need to pin, be back in a bit.

They don’t last because those vows were made when the life expectancy of man and women was 40yrs old. Now men are living to be 75 and women 80.
Today’s vows should be “yeah I’ll give it a shot”.

If both of you want it to work, it will work. I believe communication is the key. We guys tend to keep everything inside. You gotta open up. Granted there are days I want to throw my woman out the window, but I don't. Why? Because at the end of the day I know she has my back no matter what. She was with me when I was broke, made my money, lost my money, etc. I got a good one

Guys, with the right pretty girl, marriage is a bliss. you get your food on time. a warm bed. your kids are well taken care of and loved. and sex is from the heart. the cuddling before and after is just tooooooo amazing to describe. the key word is, the right girl.

startedtogym said:

Guys, with the right pretty girl, marriage is a bliss. you get your food on time. a warm bed. your kids are well taken care of and loved. and sex is from the heart. the cuddling before and after is just tooooooo amazing to describe. the key word is, the right girl.

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Everything you said is absolutely correct and addition to that would be communication... It is so important to be honest and open with each other.

MrsAO said:

Everything you said is absolutely correct and addition to that would be communication... It is so important to be honest and open with each other.

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Definitely communication is number one.

dreww said:

lmao! so after all, the answer is that people are just fucking lazy. Thats the american way!

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I agree. I am in it for the long road. I don't want to be retrained again.

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jimbosmith316 said:

Definitely communication is number one.

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If you can't see eye to eye today. I just tell her I'm in a bad mood and would say something stupid or let's talk tomorrow when where not pissed off.

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