Girl problems bro's

Sup bro's need some advice here..me and my girl has been going out for about 10 months, and she told me the other day that she has JUST been Talking to this guy for about 3 weeks...and her work place, however I went there last night to suprise her..since today is her birthday and she had got off from work went home changed clothes and went back there to have dinner with her brother and sister in law good and well knowing that he would be there working....(Red Lobster)!!! However we fought all night long, when she came out I asked her if Paul was in there(the guy she has been talking to).....and she said YES but working....however we fought, and there is a 3 year old little girl involved as well, and my girl told me that if it was not for our little girl she would go out with this guy...I seen him last night and he is a skinny little bitch!!! wtf!!! guys what should I do about my girl, has she left me already or are we to far gone or what guys? come on guys this has been the best girl I have ever been with...she is the best, what' should I do....She has my girl......It is her girl but we have grown so close together she calls me" Daddy" she is really attached,what do u guys think?

Hey bud.

You need to sit her down and talk to see if both of you want to continue the relationship.

If not, it'll be hard and take your losses.

If yes, try and figure out what is wrong. Listen to hear and have her listen to you. While you two are talking use good communication skills, eye contact, non-verbals. Try not to set each other off by getting defensive. Don't say you piss me off, tell her I get upset when you do X. It tells your feelings that are associted with a certain action. Listening is not just hearing. When you believe you understand her point Paraphase it back to her, don't just say yeah I got it. Therefore, if you both do that then each other knows the other is listening and at least understands the point being communicated. Damn glad I took this class in college it helps.

GREAT ADVICE FROM BIGMUS. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT BRO

thanks man for that I really needed that...we tried to talk it out last night, and I asked what she we needed to do about US>..and she replied I don't know,,, I think that's B.S. because it's rather u want to be with somebody or you don't I don't see what her problem is.... I love her a lot but obviously it looks as if she is over me, I don'lt know, I will be starting my cycle in 2 weeks....and I really don't feel like getting into working out now...guys help me out here....I need all of the support and motivation I can get right now...

It aint the skinny dweebs fault at all. Don't blame him.

WTF this world is just fucked up. Be ready for a ride on the emotional rollercoaster bro and it ain't no fun either you can take that from the rollercoaster crash test dummy

thanks again bro's keep the replies coming...I just don't know what to do...I guess... we will just see.....I have a party to go to today for my friend...and she will be there.... I love her very much but I guess we will see..thanks once again.......for all of your help...

Viper bro, I'm going to tell you something that you shouldn't forget, ever .. ok ? I'm sorry if any females on this forum section will get mad but, DON'T TRUST A FEMALE. Period... I'm not going to lie to you, if you love her very much, and she doesn't give you the same needs, its going to be the most fucked up situation in your life. Noone can motivate you, for anything. I know myself. I'm havign alot of personal problems, and this girl is playing with my mind. You have to deal with it, no way out...

goodluck

1bigmus said:

Hey bud.

You need to sit her down and talk to see if both of you want to continue the relationship.

If not, it'll be hard and take your losses.

If yes, try and figure out what is wrong. Listen to hear and have her listen to you. While you two are talking use good communication skills, eye contact, non-verbals. Try not to set each other off by getting defensive. Don't say you piss me off, tell her I get upset when you do X. It tells your feelings that are associted with a certain action. Listening is not just hearing. When you believe you understand her point Paraphase it back to her, don't just say yeah I got it. Therefore, if you both do that then each other knows the other is listening and at least understands the point being communicated. Damn glad I took this class in college it helps.

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I agree completely...

thanks everybody.....once again....for everything.....in about 2 hours I will be seeing her and her little girl at a b-day party...so I hope all goes well, we will see..we might be finished....after all...I guess I am just going to pull away from that little girl...she loves me so much...it's hard for her..and I know it's going to be hard, just because the real father....does not want anything to do with the MOM or the DAUGHTER!!! so time will tell, once again thanks!!

great advice given by bigmus. Did you ask her why she doesn't care anymore???Have you done anything romantic lately to show her how much you care?

Good luck at the party. Hope everything goes good.

diggi said:

Viper bro, I'm going to tell you something that you shouldn't forget, ever .. ok ? I'm sorry if any females on this forum section will get mad but, DON'T TRUST A FEMALE. Period... I'm not going to lie to you, if you love her very much, and she doesn't give you the same needs, its going to be the most fucked up situation in your life. Noone can motivate you, for anything. I know myself. I'm havign alot of personal problems, and this girl is playing with my mind. You have to deal with it, no way out...

goodluck

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I'm sorry but I had to say something. So you're saying don't trust any female from your one experience with a girl that obviously didn't sound like she was old enough to be in a serious relationship..and didn't seem like she knew what she wanted...I'm not ragging on you, but I don't understand how you can use that one experience as pertaining to not trusting all women..

I bought her 4 different presents and roses last night which I was going to give her today for her b-day....but I gave them to her last night, and she said that maybe it was to late.......so I said that I was doing this for her b-day.... so I don't know guys... I will keep u posted...I am leaving in an hour..... for the party

viper10139 said:

I bought her 4 different presents and roses last night which I was going to give her today for her b-day....but I gave them to her last night, and she said that maybe it was to late.......so I said that I was doing this for her b-day.... so I don't know guys... I will keep u posted...I am leaving in an hour..... for the party

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Good luck viper...I really hope everything works out for you...

thanks babysiren!!!

babysiren said:

I'm sorry but I had to say something. So you're saying don't trust any female from your one experience with a girl that obviously didn't sound like she was old enough to be in a serious relationship..and didn't seem like she knew what she wanted...I'm not ragging on you, but I don't understand how you can use that one experience as pertaining to not trusting all women..

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Ok - - babysiren, I think you didn't get to my point. I'm not just saying this because I'm having problems with my gf, or because viper is having problems with his girl. Its just, simple. Many adult males, lets say 95% will agree that they shouldn't trust females which are their gf's or wifes.. Today the first think you hear is she cheated on him...not he on her... and its not just based on my relationship, I was there before, so I really know what women are. And every time, I try to find something at least different in each one of them and every single time I find the same exact thing which is (lie, cheat, lame act, not honest..etc..etc..).. so it bringsd me to this (dont trust females). You have to get married and everything but even in marriage, things don't work out the way you want them to. Most girls 18-25 years of age and older look what do you have. What kind of clothes do you wear. What do you drive. Do you have a place to live,..and most of it all $$$..

Trust me, if I had 1000$ shoes, armani tax worth 5000$ and a nice convertible Lexus SC430 every single girl would be after me..

viper10139 said:

Sup bro's need some advice here..me and my girl has been going out for about 10 months, and she told me the other day that she has JUST been Talking to this guy for about 3 weeks...and her work place, however I went there last night to suprise her..since today is her birthday and she had got off from work went home changed clothes and went back there to have dinner with her brother and sister in law good and well knowing that he would be there working....(Red Lobster)!!! However we fought all night long, when she came out I asked her if Paul was in there(the guy she has been talking to).....and she said YES but working....however we fought, and there is a 3 year old little girl involved as well, and my girl told me that if it was not for our little girl she would go out with this guy...I seen him last night and he is a skinny little bitch!!! wtf!!! guys what should I do about my girl, has she left me already or are we to far gone or what guys? come on guys this has been the best girl I have ever been with...she is the best, what' should I do....She has my girl......It is her girl but we have grown so close together she calls me" Daddy" she is really attached,what do u guys think?

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Dude, it sounds to me like she is not happy being with you. I don't know what else to say is but sit down to discuss why she feels this way and what will the consequences be walking out on a relationship where a child is involved. It's theses kind of situations that makes me feell sorry for the child because it is them that suffer. I hope you work these things out bro!

It makes me ponder that short lived relationships fall because the realtionship wasn't really concrete and is mostly based upon physically attractiveness....let this be a lesson to us all, when love is substituted for lust the relationship will fall. Take your time and the right person will come around.

diggi said:

Ok - - babysiren, I think you didn't get to my point. I'm not just saying this because I'm having problems with my gf, or because viper is having problems with his girl. Its just, simple. Many adult males, lets say 95% will agree that they shouldn't trust females which are their gf's or wifes.. Today the first think you hear is she cheated on him...not he on her... and its not just based on my relationship, I was there before, so I really know what women are. And every time, I try to find something at least different in each one of them and every single time I find the same exact thing which is (lie, cheat, lame act, not honest..etc..etc..).. so it bringsd me to this (dont trust females). You have to get married and everything but even in marriage, things don't work out the way you want them to. Most girls 18-25 years of age and older look what do you have. What kind of clothes do you wear. What do you drive. Do you have a place to live,..and most of it all $$$..

Trust me, if I had 1000$ shoes, armani tax worth 5000$ and a nice convertible Lexus SC430 every single girl would be after me..

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I understand what you are saying...I also have been f***** over by a few men, but I'm not gonna turn around and judge everyone one of them...I'm not saying you don't have a right to feel the way you do, But I personally don't feel it is right for you to place judgement on every woman, of not being trustworthy..

Gettin Stupid said:

It aint the skinny dweebs fault at all. Don't blame him.

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don't blame him, beat him or atleast this is the method i use, do the same shit to her, act like you don't care. . . for some reasone this shit always works for me. i had myself in a similar situation not to long ago. . . good luck bro

The more desperate you become...the more you'll drive her disinterest in you. She's looking at this other guy because there's something about him that fits her more than what you have to offer...no knock on you at all man. There is a certain type of person to fit everyone out there...I mean not just ONE person, but LOTS of people that will be just right for YOU! Screw her...period. You tried your best and it didn't bring her around. Keep your pride esteem intact and don't grovel over her anymore...sounds to me like nothing good can come of it...just more pain for you and some potential damage to your confidence in general. Sounds like you might be better focusing your energies inward and go KILL SOME HEAVY WEIGHTS!

Get hardcore on your training...
..........IT WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU
..........IT WILL NEVER SAY FUCKED UP SHIT TO YOU
..........IT WILL NEVER BE INTERESTED IN ANYTHING BUT YOU
.........IT WILL BE THERE, DAY IN AND DAY OUT FOR YOU
..........IT WILL GIVE MORE BACK TO YOU THAN YOU GIVE TO IT

SHIT, WHAT ELSE CAN I SAY? I'd bet my life that taking on that kind of "fuck-em all" attitude will make you more attractive to more women than ever before.

Good luck bro---keep us posted.