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Choke03

Guest

• Oct 22, 2002

• #1

Hey Bro's, I just heard thru a friend that my old Girlfriend (on and off all thru High School and beyond) has cancer. It is supposedly Blood related and very serious. We moved on from each other awhile ago but I think of her almost everyday. She was probably the sweetest girl I ever knew, she would do anything for me and I hurt her a bunch of times. For some reason I would alway's go for the hot nasty bitches who challenged me and never would stay with the Hot sweet girl from around the corner. I want to reach out to her so she know's I am thinking of her. Problem is she is now married, just had twin babies last year and I'd hate to make any waves. Her Husband know's all about me so I am sure he wouldn't appreciate the intrusion at this time. I could have easily (if I knew what was good for me) ended up marrying this girl, just blowing off guy's I feel like shit now.

 

cybersteffan

New member

• Oct 22, 2002

• #2

I know how you feel. I kinda had the same last week but not so severe as your problem. I heard from a friend that girl I broke with last week, had an accident with her bicycle and was hurt pretty bad. So I was also very concerned. I didn't know what to do either because she didn't want to see or hear me ever again. But I couldn 't just leave it, an wrote her an e-mail. She really appreciated my concern, and we are now even friends again.

I would seek contact with this friend of yours, and if her husband is good for her, he should be glad she has as many people as possible that care for her at the moment. It is never easy though and I am to much of a snotnose myself to give great advice on matters as this, but I hope the others will tell you what to do!

Good luck my friend!

 

Last edited: Oct 22, 2002

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Choke03

Guest

• Oct 22, 2002

• #3

Thanks bro, glad your situation turned out good. Maybe I'll send flowers to the Hospital with a small note.

 

Gear101*

New member

• Oct 22, 2002

• #4

bro go see her.. your wife and you should not even thing about it twice.. everyone will be happy to see you.. put yourself in the other guys spot.. knock on wood.. if your wife had that problem would you care if someone that was nice to her years before you meat her came back to show there love and support for her.. i think it would mean more to you than anything.. IMHO.. personal i if i was in the position i'd rather see all of her friends come and see her to get her moral support.. hope that helps

 

DecaDent*

New member

• Oct 22, 2002

• #5

Good advise from Gear,I agree,go with your signif. other and you won't be a threat,it'll probably warm her heart and his 2.

 

Latinsteel

New member

• Oct 22, 2002

• #6

Choke just go to her and express your concrens......there is nothing wrong with showing you care.

 

GetnBigr

New member

• Oct 23, 2002

• #7

lots of good options here to go with.

listen bro, I'm not going to preach to you, but all you need to do is pray about it, and you will find your answer.

good luck

 

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Choke03

Guest

• Oct 23, 2002

• #8

Damn, you guy's are the shit. I am happy you think it's ok to go visit, I really want to see her. Thanks Bro's for real.

 

babysiren

New member

• Oct 23, 2002

• #9

You should go see her, there's nothing wrong with it if you do...She was a special part of your life. And it shouldn't be a problem for her husband, if a friend of hers stops by and sees how she's doing, when she needs everyone that cares about her at this time in her life...I wish you the best of luck on what you decide to do...And I'm very sorry to hear about her...Good luck...

 

Big Guns

New member

• Oct 23, 2002

• #10

Go see her. If you were special in her life he won't mind.

 

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LUV2LFT

New member

• Oct 24, 2002

• #11

Definately go see her... Once you get life changing news like that, everything changes very quickly. It sounds as if she really cared a lot for you and vice versa. Perhaps the timing wasn't right--that never erases the feelings that were shared between the two of you. All other involved parties at this time, should be accepting, and willing to understand that. Cancer sucks... and so does not sharing what you really feel with someone when time is of the essence. best of luck. Go see her, and tell her how much you appreciated everything she was to you, even if maybe you didn't seem to show it at the time. (It should be a private conversation between just the two of you, of course).

 

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Choke03

Guest

• Oct 24, 2002

• #12

I am going to see her Saturday. I spoke to her Dad last night he is going to tell her I want to see her. If I do not hear from her brother telling me not to then I am going. Thanks for the support.

 

winnie

New member

• Oct 28, 2002

• #13

What happened?

 

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Choke03

Guest

• Oct 28, 2002

• #14

Thanks for the advice, I would have never gone without your support. It was super emotional, she was happy to see me but sad because of the circumstances. Her mom and sister were there and seemed very happy as well to see me. They gave us some time alone and we got to laughing about old times. When I hugged her goodbye I didn't want to let go, tuff stuff my brothers, but I am very happy that I went. I am praying hard she can beat this thing, her babies just turned 2 last month and they look just as beatiful as their mom.Again thanks

 

winnie

New member

• Oct 28, 2002

• #15

You did the right thing for her and yourself, I am glad it worked out.