The post I never wanted to post!

midwtchamp

Banana

• Mar 27, 2003

• #1

Ok what up guys and gals....I have a huge problem in my relationship life. Ok here is the story right after xmas I broke up w/my girl who I have been dating for 4 yrs. Things were just not working, well as my luck would go I met this other wonderful woman. Now that I have been seeing the woman for like 2 months, my thoughts tend to wander back to my ex and to top it all off my ex calls the other day like 15 mins after I had just said a a prayer for someone else to help me. She wants to talk and I know if I talk I will end up back w/her, which isnt a bad thing. Being w/my current girl isnt a bad thing either. It is like either situation or either route I choose someone gets hurt. This is really bringing me down and it sucks I dont know what to do. I feel pretty much helpless!!!Help a brother out!

 

dedprez*

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #2

i hear ya...there is always an attachment to the ex...but i would say make a decision soon as your relationship with the new one is only 2months old and the sooner it is ended ...the better...if you go that route...but find out what the ex wants first...she may have just wanted her "toy" back or some shit

 

BLEED GREEN

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #3

Someone "true" to you would still be with you...You said in your post above that 'things were not working out" Has something changed? Just my .02

Good luck my friend

 

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scorpio

Guest

• Mar 27, 2003

• #4

You split with the first for a reason, and you are happy with who you're with now right? Sounds like a no brainer to me.

 

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WeirdAl

Guest

• Mar 27, 2003

• #5

Why'd you break up in the first place? Are those reasons still valid? If so, sounds like you need some sort of closure so you can move on.

 

UCDFuBoO

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #6

I got an idea... why don't u stick with u'r new girl.. and tell your ex to give me a call... I usually woudln't do this, but since u are a fellow MC board member, I'll reluctantly take her off your hands for you... I'll keep her busy.. dont' worry... she's in good hands ..

 

sugaa

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #7

How old are you?? If you'r e not thinking about being serious and getting married, go with the person you think you'll have the most fun with.

 

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92StangMan

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #8

Bro, I know where you're coming from; I'm kind of in the same boat. What were the problems? Have you really sat down and talked to her about the problems and is she willing to help make the relationship? Has the problem came up before in the relationship before you all broke up and things never worked even though she said she would change them?

If you can sit down, talk things out and she says she is willing to help the situation, I would give it a shot. But if she says she does not want to or has said she would in the past and never worked on straigtening things out, I would think about moving on.

I know four years seems like a long time to just go down the drain but I wish you luck, bro!

 

poopoo

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #9

since you've been with the new girl for 2 months, than compare the was you feel about her to the way you felt about your ex after the first two months.

 

jaywooly

Guru

• Mar 27, 2003

• #10

Some good advice on this thread. I would have to say stick with the new one, she did nothing wrong (yet). The reason you still have feeling about the old one is because you were with her for four years. What are you doing getting into a relationship one month after a break-up? You need some time off the both of 'em in my opinion. Good luck bro!

 

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sarbear

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #11

for sure follow your heart!!! it is tough for both you and the others...but you are the one that has to make the decision. But don't wait to long because the longer you wait the girl for 2 months will be totally heart broken and that is not fun But on the other hand don't jump to conclusions...your ex may just want to talk to someone she really knows.

 

Saks

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #12

Stick with the new one! Never re-heat old soup!

 

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WeirdAl

Guest

• Mar 27, 2003

• #13

I just have 2 questions: which one is better in bed, and what's her phone number? j/k of course

 

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Max-HC

New member

• Mar 27, 2003

• #14

Bro Iam still in love with my ex and i just broke up with new gf
after 3 wks Id go back to her but it just wouldnt be the same
its a tough one bro.
I agree with sarbear.

 

midwtchamp

Banana

• Mar 28, 2003

• #15

the ex and I broke up b/c the relationship had gone "dry" and had gotten too monotanous for me and I was having a lot of personal issues which I have now resolved. Basically I am a totally different person than who she was with and it is all for the good...and damn she called again tonight and I am talking to the current woman about the whole thing! She doesnt help any she is damn perfect and is totally understanding grrrrr grrrr~

 

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WeirdAl

Guest

• Mar 28, 2003

• #16

Wow, you talked to the current girl about it? That's brave, I'm glad she's being understanding. I know you're towards the end or just past the end of your cycle - did you just come off? I know my head was messed up when my test levels were low... I'm not suggesting this is a hormone thing, but just wondering if it might have any bearing. If you just came off, I'd maybe suggest holding off on making any decision or change for a bit.

What are your goals with either relationship? Are you wanting to have fun, or are you looking for someone you can settle down with?

 

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Badgermoon

Guest

• Mar 28, 2003

• #17

I feel for you brother, not an easy situation. I think what takes place in our lives relationship-wise has a huge influence on us. Even many many years down the road, it is likely to stay with you, whether you are still together or not. make decisions carefully. Sometimes it is very hard to know what to do when you are at the point of having to make big decisions. I wish you the best, it is a tricky road.

 

midwtchamp

Banana

• Mar 28, 2003

• #18

Al yes I just came off well like 4 weeks ago I think I have already went through that emotional rollercoaster...I am looking for someone to settle down with I am at a point in my life where that is just something I need. Actually I just talked to the ex and things with us are ok she just wanted some answers and stuff like that. I dont know where I go from here, she did say you want me back you have to earn me back.....??? ??? Geez what is an insane brother to do lol!

 

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viper10139

Guest

• Mar 29, 2003

• #19

hey bro...take it easy..YOu are still young, but I tell you what..if u really want to know the best way...take a pen and paper, and write down the pro's and con's on the current girl and your X...trust me..u will not regret it...You will enjoy it very much so..trust me...things will get better for you, I know it's hard right now for you..having to make this decision, but honestly if the X called, just see what she wants.....if u like what she has to say..then do the list...if u don't like what she has to say..then don't sweat it..and enjoy the new girl bro..PM me if u need to talk bro...

 

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JerseyMatty

New member

• Mar 29, 2003

• #20

an ex is an ex for a reason. never forget that