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kossdeh
04-25-2003, 10:10 PM
The other day, this guy came up to me in the gym and offered me advice (unsolicited) on lifting. Some background: Im in my mid thirties and have been lifting for almost 20 yrs. I was doing some tricep work, supersetting it with biceps. I was getting tired and my elbows were spreading more than ideal. Granted.
Now, this dude who offered me advice is about 20. He's a good 50 lbs smaller (not lighter) than me. He walks up and says " if you want to get maximum benefit from those, you should keep your elbows closer together". I also worked as a PT in the gym for a number of years. I was so shocked that at first I just said "what?".
Now, if I see this guy later, should I be an ass and let him know that I do know what Im doing and even so, will not take advice from a 170 novice, or should I play it cool?

bigshug
04-25-2003, 11:07 PM
I was doing flat skullcrushers with 185 lbs the other day, and I don't see any way for me to NOT keep my elbows from flaring out some........my triceps are pumped as shit after hitting off close grips first then hittin' the 'ole skullcrushers, so I say do what works for you, and tell him that once he can really put up some weight, then he can come talk to you

buyb12
04-25-2003, 11:09 PM
play it cool.....ask him for a spot when your benching he will be shocked how much you lift ...that will give him some prespective.

Presser
04-25-2003, 11:12 PM
b12 is on the money,lol, just show him up with out being obvious

shiko24
04-25-2003, 11:16 PM
yeah I say go along those lines ask him to work out with you and put him through you work out then lets see him talk !

bigshug
04-25-2003, 11:30 PM
KICK HIS ASS, SEABASS!!!!

poopoo
04-25-2003, 11:45 PM
rip out his eyeballs, and than rip out his tongue. or at least give him an evil look :D

Saks
04-25-2003, 11:46 PM
Originally posted by bigshug
I was doing flat skullcrushers with 185 lbs the other day, and I don't see any way for me to NOT keep my elbows from flaring out some........my triceps are pumped as shit after hitting off close grips first then hittin' the 'ole skullcrushers, so I say do what works for you, and tell him that once he can really put up some weight, then he can come talk to you

BigShug did this to me for a long time. I finally got the big picture though.

MacGyver
04-26-2003, 01:20 AM
Well I don't blame him. His intentions were good. If you know your stuff, just make him feel good and listen to his advice, even though you know what you are doing.
Then next time you see hime doing something wrong, give him a piece of advice....

jaywooly
04-26-2003, 02:07 AM
I agree with the peeps that said ask him for a spot while benching. After you're done with your set ask if he wants to work in with you. When he looks at the weight and shrugs with a grin and says "no" you say, " that's what I thought you little bitch!!! You aint shit, dirty fucking **** rag!!!" Then you proceed to spit in his face and ask he he wants to step outside. Then he'll know who the real man is!

J/K, I agree with Mac, it was in good intention. But if he oversteps his boundries again, you know what to do, hehehe...

Zeca
04-26-2003, 04:50 AM
play it cool kossdeh........ ask him some help for your bench press
and slap his face with a good weight! :D

dedprez*
04-26-2003, 05:17 AM
who cares....squash it

rippedchef
04-26-2003, 12:37 PM
ignore the peasants

Geaux4Tigers
04-26-2003, 01:18 PM
nothing pisses me off more than when someone tries to tell me how to train. I will ask and not ashamed to ask for any help or addvice, but I can't stand when someone gives me addvice without warning. I have been trianing for 7 years now and feel that i know my stuff very well but I still have room for more knowledge. Well, one day i was doing flat bench flies and was doing just about my max weight. i started to strugle and this girl, whom i had never seen before, proceeds to give me a spot and at the same time addvice DURRING my set. She said your arms and elbows are to far apart, they need to be closer together down close to the chest. I was doing flies not bench presses, you dumb f--k. I myself did not say a word to her and just laughed it off. What it does is make you feel down on your training and that hurts me. After the incident I started to look at myself in the mirror and weighing myself to see if i was looking weak or something. I had to just get over it. I do not give addvice to anyone unless they are going to get hurt or they ask for it. I see no need in making someone feel down about the way that they train even if i know it is the wrong way. I don't want to discourage anyone. I would rather see a person train hard the wrong way than not at all. To answer your question, i wouldn't do anything and just get over it.

jshoty
04-26-2003, 09:54 PM
show him who's boss, no really dont bust your balls on it, you obviously know what your doing, so dont let it bother ya.

superman1975
04-26-2003, 11:07 PM
koss your just an old man---LOL!!! J/K bro!!!!!!

kossdeh
04-26-2003, 11:37 PM
Originally posted by rippedchef
ignore the peasants

now thats just the coolest reply

kossdeh
04-26-2003, 11:39 PM
Saw the dude again today. He was working alone on shoulder press. I decided that chest day can wait and decided to do milt press with him. I asked if I could work in and thanked him for the advice yesterday. I managed to max out exactly twice his top lift.
After that I went back to my chest routine....by myself

kossdeh
04-26-2003, 11:39 PM
Originally posted by superman1975
koss your just an old man---LOL!!! J/K bro!!!!!!

Your right, Im a crancky old man!!!!!!

japan69
04-26-2003, 11:51 PM
unsolicited advice is just about always annoying, but even more so when you get it from someone who lifts half of what you do. These people are just arrogant morons. I'd say you gave him more time and effort than he deserved.

bigshug
04-27-2003, 02:21 AM
I remember Saks' brother cambered bar curling 40 lbs and telling Saks he was "swaying" too much with 135.....lol

organdoner
04-27-2003, 10:06 AM
it's no different than someone telling you that you should give your life to god. since they don't know you maybe you already know god. so do you get mad? no. just keep training and the bro will probably copy what you do to get to where you are. however why is it that we judge people by how much they weigh? just because you're bigger doesn't mean anything. i'm 45 and started juicing last yr. from 155 to 177 after staying on all the time. currently i'm at 182 w/test-dbol-masteron cycle. i hope to be huge like some of you bros one day but don't think for a minute cause you're bigger makes any difference. play it cool bro. focus that energy on training and giving guys like me knowledge.

kossdeh
04-27-2003, 12:28 PM
Concede your point. However, I was 170 at one point too. Almost 15 years of hard work have got me where I am now. Im proud of that so I guess thats what made me feel that way.

buyb12
04-27-2003, 07:54 PM
ego is a mother