Rant- Had To Get It Off My Chest

My wife (who was the only member of her family never got fat) started on BFL about 1 1/2 years ago and has made great progress. She also got her boobs done about a year ago. Yesterday she got flack from her sister for wearing a mini-skirt and a halter top. The comments were among the "you're too old" variety. Like I said, my wife worked damn hard and still has a greater goal ahead. I asked if her sister's comment hurt (I could tell that they did) and she said- "no, but I can tell she feels bad about herself when I'm dressed nice (meaning not all covered up) and I don't want to make her feel bad".

Now her sister has been involved in the FFL (fat for life) program forever. If you checked my cycle log you will notice I put on 13 lbs in 2 weeks. Well my sister-in-law beat that. She put on at least 15 in the last 2 weeks and is taking it out on my wife. Why the phuck can't she just shut the phuck up? If it bothers her that much here is a piece of advise- "Just put the fork down!"

Now this isn't the 1st time she said something to my wife. She accused her of using test to achieve her look. My wife has a job that she has to get out of the house by 4:00am 4 days a week. Even on these days, if she's scheduled for AM cardio she gets up extra early and does it. She never missed a workout over the entire 1 1/2 years and eats religiously as well.

She also has made comments to my wife about me but that is an entire different rant. My question is why? I'd like to hear some comments and other stories if you can relate.

Thanks

I don't have a similar story but have heard some just like it. It's unfortunate, but human nature is to make someone else feel bad to make yourself feel better. Congrats to your wife on making the effort and setting her goals. I'm sure your wife knows deep down her sister is just jealous, I'm sure it hurts her coming from someone so close. Just keep telling your wife how beautiful she is, and to forget about her sister.

PS. the fat for life thing made me laugh.

MY FIANCEE SEEMED A BIT SET BACK BY HER SISTERS COMMENTS AT THE TABLE ONE NIGHT WHILE WE WERE OVER THERE HOUSE, SHE WAS 1 WEEK OUT FROM HER SHOW AND HER SISTER SAID SHE LOOKED "SICKLY" I GUESS FROM HER FACE BEING DRAWN IN AND WATER SUCKED OUT, IT PISSED ME THE FUCK OFF TO KNOW END. bUT MY GIRL TOOK IT OK BUT I THINK IT HURT HER, HER SISTER JUST HAD A BABY AND WELL POPPED ON A FEW POUNDS, I SEEN WHAT SHE USE TO LOOK LIKE AND SHE WAS IN NICE SHAPE BUT LET HERSELF GO A BIT, AND WHEN WE ARE OUT AT FAMILY GATHERINGS PEOPLE ALWAYS ASK US/HER HOW DO YOU DO? WHAT DO EAT AND TRAIN LIKE ETC... AND HER SISTER ALWAYS MAKES THE COMMENT IS THAT ALL YOU GUYS EVER TALK ABOUT. WELL ACTUALY NO, THATS ACTUALY THE LAST THING IN THE WORLD WE WANT TO TALK ABOUT EVERYTIME WE SEE PEOPLE BUT THEY ASK SO WE EXPLAIN TO THEM HOW TO HELP THEMSELVES.

NOW DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE HER SISTER AND FAMILY IN GENERAL BUT I SEEN MY GIRLS FACE THE ONE DAY HER SISTER SAID SHE LOOKED "SICKLY' AND I THINK IT UP SET HER, OH WELL

My wife gets the same shit pulled on her all of the time. Oddly enough, it's only from her scarry fat friends! I'll second scorpio's thoughts - it is just just jealously. Keep those complements coming, she obviously earned them!

I feel for you my friend, My wife has always kept herself in awesome shape, 2 children and all-She also got implants @ 2 years ago and always looks great, It is ONLY her fat "friends" who make negative comments-They do it to try to make themselves feel better about eating their 10th Krispy Kreame of the day. All I can say is consider the source....................

Bleedgreen hit it right on. I think the comments are the result of peoples jealosey, and since you have to care about what you look like to be willing to put the effort in that your wives/gf's do, comments like that can be hurtful. I've noticed that poeple who keep themselves in good shape are more likely to give positive comment on the effort to look decent than those who know that they look fat and sloppy. mabe they just don't like to be reminded that they look bad, but don't want to exert themselves to change anything.

Yeah, that's especially hard to take from someone who loves you, and really should be encouraging you. What she needs to realize is that her sister (and anyone else) is probably more trying to convince themselves that they don't need to get in shape. I hear people all the time saying how they don't want to lift weights because they don't want to get musclebound or (women) grotesque (manlike). They don't realize what it takes to actually get muscular, like you pick up a weight and boom, there you go. They are just trying to make excuses and convince themselves not to make the effort to change themselves.

I bet they'd actually like to be "musclebound", as they put it, but don't want to admit it because they know they don't have the desire to put in all the work it takes. I know I'd like to be thick and muscular, and I keep trying to get there.

Yeah... I also think it's funny to hear girls say that they don't like muscle bound guys... but then drool all over at seeing chippendales dancers (who are always in great shape and lots of muscle).

People all want to be in shape and look good... but not everyone has the willpower to do what it takes and sacrifice time, food, and money to get there.

Sorry to hear your wife (wives - seems common) is dealing with jealousy. Everyone above is right on. Just keep tellin her how great she looks.

-j69

I actually get it from both ends of the spectrum......a few years ago I just wanted to have the ripped abs look, so I did shitloads of cardio in addition to weight training. Not only did people look shocked when I told them I worked out ("YOU go to the gym?? I can't tell...."), but there were others that were worried that I was anorexic or something (I had dropped below 160 lbs). Now that I'm pushing 250 most of the time, all anyone can do is comment on how I'm getting too big (is that possible....lol) or that I look uncomfortable. Funny thing is that when they ask what I do to get so big (believe me, I ain't that big) they never believe what I say since they've already made up their mind as to how I got all that size so quickly.........I say fuck 'em. I let a lot of fat ass, overweight people criticize my physique to the point that it really hurt my feelings. Not anymore. I swear the next one that judges me will get, "Yeah? Well you're fat!"

Bad comments hurts, but from your family is even worse.....
Ignorance is sad and it should motivate you to achieve your goals.

It pure ENVY thats all it is!

Thanks for everyone's responses. I talked further with my wife and she does seem to be handling it better the 2nd day.

Presser said:

MY FIANCEE SEEMED A BIT SET BACK BY HER SISTERS COMMENTS AT THE TABLE ONE NIGHT WHILE WE WERE OVER THERE HOUSE, SHE WAS 1 WEEK OUT FROM HER SHOW AND HER SISTER SAID SHE LOOKED "SICKLY" I GUESS FROM HER FACE BEING DRAWN IN AND WATER SUCKED OUT, IT PISSED ME THE FUCK OFF TO KNOW END. bUT MY GIRL TOOK IT OK BUT I THINK IT HURT HER, HER SISTER JUST HAD A BABY AND WELL POPPED ON A FEW POUNDS, I SEEN WHAT SHE USE TO LOOK LIKE AND SHE WAS IN NICE SHAPE BUT LET HERSELF GO A BIT, AND WHEN WE ARE OUT AT FAMILY GATHERINGS PEOPLE ALWAYS ASK US/HER HOW DO YOU DO? WHAT DO EAT AND TRAIN LIKE ETC... AND HER SISTER ALWAYS MAKES THE COMMENT IS THAT ALL YOU GUYS EVER TALK ABOUT. WELL ACTUALY NO, THATS ACTUALY THE LAST THING IN THE WORLD WE WANT TO TALK ABOUT EVERYTIME WE SEE PEOPLE BUT THEY ASK SO WE EXPLAIN TO THEM HOW TO HELP THEMSELVES.

NOW DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE HER SISTER AND FAMILY IN GENERAL BUT I SEEN MY GIRLS FACE THE ONE DAY HER SISTER SAID SHE LOOKED "SICKLY' AND I THINK IT UP SET HER, OH WELL

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Presser, I found your story had an element in it that I relate too. Both the wife and I get asked the same question alot "how to look like that". The interesting thing is that as soon as we mention exercise and a strick diet the questioner looses interest fast. Always makes me laugh. A lot of them were hoping for some secret diet food that magically sheds fat while sucking down pasta and beer. I then tell them they can take DNP and when they say what's that (my throttle's at full humor now) I tell them it's rat poison. After all I wouldn't want to lie and tell them there is no magic pill.

OMG!!! It came from her SISTER! That means it doesn't count for nothing. I;ll tell you something, I live with girls and if we took every mean thing we said to each other to heart, we'd have no hearts left. I really mean that and these girls arent even my sisters! A loaded remark can only be taken to heart if you let it and want something to blame your real insecurities on. I whine about things that get said to me too just so I have something to whine about and to give me an excuse NOT to do something because I was thinking along the same lines as maybe their comment and not feeling to overly comfortable about something. I mean that it gives you someone to blame for knowing there is some truth in what they're saying but you didn't want to face it.


I think it's cool that you guys feel bad for things that get said to your girls tho because it does hurt at first and it does feel good to have someone on your side.