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alpineslide
11-01-2003, 08:44 PM
I met this Women. She's got a great personality and she is absolutely adorable. She even likes me, which is a definate plus.....and hard to find, lol.

Here's the problem. I workout a lot and try to stay in shape like everyone else here on this site. She doesn't and really doesn't seem to have much interest in it even though she used to workout when she was younger ( She's 30 right now ). To be honest I'd like for her to drop a few pounds and get into shape.

Is there a polite way to tell her this. I don't want to be insulting, but I really don't think a relationship will last with her if a healthy lifestyle is not something that we have in common.

chelle
11-01-2003, 08:48 PM
Don't tell her that! Just get her doing something fun - go walking with her, do something active together :D, but don't tell her you'd like for her to start working out to shed a few pounds. Unless you want to run her off.

This is hard b/c training and being fit is a high priority and it's hard for me to understand why a woman would not be into it.

hmmm...this is a hard one....

learner202
11-01-2003, 08:50 PM
I told my gf that she is hot, but needs to start going to the gym because she needs to loose about 10 lbs. I work in this industry and I find nothing wrong with being very very blunt. If she is secure she will not get mad bro.

chelle
11-01-2003, 08:54 PM
That will make her feel insecure and crushed. Not good, unless you've been together or are married, and still it's a risk.

Just get her active doing something fun together.
Say how you like a certain outfit and it's one of those cute tiny numbers - size 4/6. I love being able to wear anything I want to.
I don't know.... find a way to motivate her.

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 08:54 PM
She needs to lose about 10 pounds. That doesn't seem like much, but she's 4'9". 10 pounds on a 4'9" frame is noticeable.

Like I said earlier....She's adorable. Long blonde hair, beautiful blue eyes. If she loses 10 pounds she'll be incredibly hot.

learner202
11-01-2003, 08:58 PM
I will always tell a girl just what is the truth. All girls do not take it good though man. It is up to you wether you would lie to her or just be straight up.

chelle
11-01-2003, 09:00 PM
Being truthful is good but being tactful about it is even better.

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 09:02 PM
^^^ exactly....I'm trying to figure out how to do that.

Would it be a bad thing to strategically place slimfast and hydroxycut all over the house ?

chelle
11-01-2003, 09:06 PM
No - buy her the current issue of Oxygen Magazine or Muscle and Fitness Hers.
Just say you thought she'd enjoy reading (from a womens view) about the things that interest you - your healthy life style, lifting...

radical_P
11-01-2003, 09:07 PM
LMFAO at this thread. Tactful is the way to go. Take her skiing or rock climbing or something.

learner202
11-01-2003, 09:21 PM
I will just say. ur getting fat. So what. Girls are a difficullt breed

yelis300
11-01-2003, 10:58 PM
Having sex all day would help her drop some lbs too.


:)

Munkeee de Sade
11-01-2003, 11:04 PM
You know I read this stuff on here all the time "my girl needs to loose some weight." WELL THEN DUMP HER!!!! Unless you have been with someone for a while and they gained weight in that time then just don't even bother. If you can't like someone for there personality and how great a person they really are then just find someone else!

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 11:11 PM
Originally posted by yelis300
Having sex all day would help her drop some lbs too.


:)

Hey... that's not bad. I could turn the heat up to about 95 or do it in front of the fireplace.

learner202
11-01-2003, 11:14 PM
Originally posted by Munkeee de Sade
You know I read this stuff on here all the time "my girl needs to loose some weight." WELL THEN DUMP HER!!!! Unless you have been with someone for a while and they gained weight in that time then just don't even bother. If you can't like someone for there personality and how great a person they really are then just find someone else!

Because if you love them you will not just dump them

chelle
11-01-2003, 11:15 PM
Originally posted by alpineslide
Hey... that's not bad. I could turn the heat up to about 95 or do it in front of the fireplace.

Now you're thinkin' :p

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 11:16 PM
Originally posted by Munkeee de Sade
If you can't like someone for there personality and how great a person they really are then just find someone else!

Your right, I really do like her personality. She's really very cute as well. I just want the total package and aside from that.....I'm obviously very superficial. Hey, at least I'll admit it.

chelle
11-01-2003, 11:17 PM
Did you by chance post in the thread "Looks or personality" ?

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 11:18 PM
Originally posted by chelle
Now you're thinkin' :p

I didn't expect you to take my side on this. I'll try pushing it a little farther.

How about if I slip some T3 into her drink ?

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 11:20 PM
Originally posted by chelle
Did you by chance post in the thread "Looks or personality" ?

I did. Looks get thing started. Personality keeps things going.

yelis300
11-01-2003, 11:20 PM
Originally posted by alpineslide
I didn't expect you to take my side on this. I'll try pushing it a little farther.

How about if I slip some T3 into her drink ?

Add some clen too.:D

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 11:26 PM
Originally posted by yelis300
Add some clen too.:D

Good idea...thanks for backing me up Yelis. Your a good Bro

learner202
11-01-2003, 11:30 PM
Tell her... "Look you fat cow go to the damn gym you look like crap. I can not have you stomping around the house stressing the floorboards and scaring away wildlife outside. You need to lose ten puonds." LMAO LMAO LMAO

I friggin kiddin!

alpineslide
11-01-2003, 11:32 PM
Maybe I should just show her this thread. You guys think that would go over well ?

chelle
11-01-2003, 11:34 PM
no, I"m sorry alpine - I didn't mean to sound insensitive :(

T82
11-02-2003, 12:01 AM
LOL at this thread!

Well, it looks like youve already gotten the advice that you should be tactful! LOL, slipping some clen in her drinks is an option :p

Man, this IS a tough one because I just dont understand why she just would want to herself, but I guess there inlies the problem for you.

Good luck with this one.........sex by the fireplace should fix 'er ;)

shyone
11-02-2003, 12:02 AM
Tell her that weight lifting is your thing and that you would love it if she would try doing it with you because it would bring you closer. Keep in mind you may be asked to do her thing as well - whatever it may be!

learner202
11-02-2003, 12:08 AM
Originally posted by learner202
Tell her... "Look you fat cow go to the damn gym you look like crap. I can not have you stomping around the house stressing the floorboards and scaring away wildlife outside. You need to lose ten puonds." LMAO LMAO LMAO

I friggin kiddin!

LMAO this guy is funny as hell! A cow! LOL

alpineslide
11-02-2003, 12:35 AM
Seriously....I just met her recently and she is a very sweet girl that I could really like alot. The problem is all in my being superficial as hell, but I really can't help. That's just the way it is.

I wouldn't say that she is fat...just needs to spend a little time in the gym and eat healthy. I certainly don't want to insult her, but being healthy and fit is such a big part of my life that even if I can accept the fact that she isn't we will have problems anyway.

So basically I can tell her how it is or wait until she gets pissed at me for going to the gym and staying home to eat my post workout meals when she wants to go do normal people things.

Munkeee de Sade
11-02-2003, 01:10 AM
Originally posted by learner202
Because if you love them you will not just dump them




If you really love someone you don't care how they look so you wouldn't be so superficial.

I told Harvey not to long ago he could gain 300lbs of fat and I would still love him and while no girl should weigh 300 lbs you just have to love her enough to where WHEN she gains weight not to worry about it. If you can't do that then she isn't the right one for you.

learner202
11-02-2003, 02:35 AM
Originally posted by learner202
I will just say. ur getting fat. So what. Girls are a difficullt breed

AND MAY I AD I AM TOTALLY WRONG. I EXPERIMENTED TONIGHT AND SURE AS SHIT YOU GUYS ARE RIGHT.

alpineslide
11-02-2003, 02:39 AM
Originally posted by learner202
AND MAY I AD I AM TOTALLY WRONG. I EXPERIMENTED TONIGHT AND SURE AS SHIT YOU GUYS ARE RIGHT.

Thanks for taking one for the team Learner. Hope you didn't get into to much trouble.

radical_P
11-02-2003, 10:08 AM
Originally posted by learner202
AND MAY I AD I AM TOTALLY WRONG. I EXPERIMENTED TONIGHT AND SURE AS SHIT YOU GUYS ARE RIGHT.

You hit it on the head when you said woman are a different breed. You have to be sensative to their needs. Whatever that may be.

LA_Hardbody
11-02-2003, 11:50 AM
LOL at this thread!

You have to find a sport or somthing athletic that shes interested in to get her started or you could buy her a nice dress that she either wont fit in or will show her gut and take her out to a nice restraunt.

Bestquads
11-02-2003, 03:01 PM
i don't know man .sensitivty has never been my strong suit i'am always looking at thinkgs from a "how do they affect ME"sorta prespective,i would say take her out and have fun and at the end of night (the usually mushy pre sex heart to heart)talk to her about it if she is as nice and resonable as you inply she might respond to that that is the best i can think of .

jaywooly
11-02-2003, 03:08 PM
LMAO at Learner and Body2see. Crazy asses.

Bestquads
11-02-2003, 03:36 PM
if what i posted first doesn work


Originally posted by learner202
Tell her... "Look you fat cow go to the damn gym you look like crap. I can not have you stomping around the house stressing the floorboards and scaring away wildlife outside. You need to lose ten puonds."

should do the trick

Koz215
11-06-2003, 06:24 PM
why not tell your grl that you would love if she joined the gym with u? i mean she used to work out..maybe she doesnt now cause she doesnt have anyone to go with.. i dont know how ur relationship is with her have u tried jokin around with her in a good way? always works when i want something. You know her best bro, make sure no ones advice hurts her. Just remember tho if she realy likes u she will do just about anything to make u happy..as long as ur realy there for her and support her as much as u can

Bently
11-06-2003, 10:17 PM
ummmm.....NOPE!

unique
11-10-2003, 07:14 AM
tell her in a nice way dude ..