Your issues and your birth order....

Some may know of this and others may not. Dr. Kevin Lehman has studied and written books about birth order and how it affects you as far as your issues and character traits. Very interesting stuff (to me).

I am wondering what your issues are and where you are in the birth order.

I am a classic first born in that I am a perfectionist and rarely satisfied with my performance or success. I find failure or the possibility of failure as one of my biggest motivators. I would be considered a control freak in alot of ways but only about things that I deem important. As an example - my home must be kept very tidy but my vehicle, I could give a shit if it is clean or not.

I must control the things that impact me and my family. However, I am not a control freak of other people - ie, my wife. Of course, if you knew her you would know that she could kick my ass at the drop of a hat. The bitch don't play. hehe

If you are a middle child or last born, you have to give the gender of your siblings AND how many years that separate you from them. The reason is that if there is a big enough gap in time and/or the gender is different, you could be a middle child but have first born traits if the gap is large enough (in years) or the sibling is the opposite sex.

Just curious and thought it would be fun to see the make up of alot of the guys and gals here.

Skip

Ok, here goes. Youngest of five, three older sisters and one twin brother (I was born last). There is ten years difference between me and my oldest sister. I'm definitely the black sheep by my family's standards. I think being the youngest has driven me to be an individual and forge my own way, trying always to be something better and different than anyone expected I could ever be. This is part of the reason for my interest in fitness, since my older sisters have all struggled with weight and I didn't want to follow in that vein.

My twin brother was more of a follower as we grew up, always waiting for me to make the first move to get a drivers licence, job, move out, etc. before he would give it a shot. This and the lack of involvement from my family over the past 6 or so years has forced me to be more independant as well.

I could go on, but I'll stop there...

See, you probably have first born traits as much as last born traits, too. The independent part and making moves first, before your brother, are probably first born traits. The 'black sheep' part is certainly a last born trait.

I don't want to be nosy but is that you in your avatar?

Skip

i am scared of this thread...

Be scared. Be VERY scared.

Skip

It is me. I do a lot of experimental self photography, so my avatar will probably change on a weekly basis... Before long you will start calling me 'The Avatar Queen'...

pipe_girl said:

It is me. I do a lot of experimental self photography, so my avatar will probably change on a weekly basis... Before long you will start calling me 'The Avatar Queen'...

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I'll call you whatever you like...:baby:

Could I get away with "Supreme Lord and High Commander"??

LMAO pg.

Skip, I'm the first born too, of 4 kids total. And reading your first post in this thread was like reading a very very accurate self description.

Let's see:

perfectionist beyond belief - <check>

anal retentive neat freak - <check>

rarely satisfied with myself - <check>

Thats some interesting stuff. I think it does have a lot to do with personality traits and character because for a very long time, while you're forming perception of yourself, its how you see yourself in the world ("where" you fall, expectations, etc)

And lets just say, judging by how my sister (the middle child) turned out, thats the least fun place to be in the birth order!

what's the doctor say about only children?

I am the youngest. I only have one sister, she is 15 months older than me.

What's is say about me?

JW: It says that you play too many video games.

It ALSO says that you are very sensitive and cry easily at movies.

Ok, ok, I've got nothin here

You ARE so right!!!!

Right about you having nothing here, lol (sorry, it was there for the taking!)

JW, it's ok to admit Dirty Dancing makes you tear up. <passes the tissue>

I do get emotional sometimes. The doctors say it's from severe depression. I think it's just that these movies are so damned good

LOL ((HUGS)) for jw. We'll put on Old School and youll cheer up!

mark mcgwire said:

what's the doctor say about only children?

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Selfish, lean toward being egocentric and still have almost all of the traits of a first born. First born and only children are not out to impress their siblings with their behaviors, they are out to impress their PARENTS. Other siblings have older siblings to look up to as role models. First born and only children do not.

First born and only children are usually much less creative and are very black and white. They lean toward careers such as accountants and such, due to the job or tasks being very black and white. We must KNOW if we are right or wrong. hehe

Skip

I have an older brother (16 months older). I didn't look up to him at all except maybe when we were very young. He was heavy, I was thin. He was slow, I was fast. I have always been involved in athletics and usually didn't hang out around my brother. I find it hard to depend on other people to get things done. I don't think they'll try as hard or do as good of job as I would.

Okay, now tell me what the book says about the second child

GetnBigr said:

Okay, now tell me what the book says about the second child

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They are closet homosexuals. LOL I couldn't resist.

Seriously, the middle child gets lost in the shuffle a bit. A known statistic is that they have the least amount of pictures in the album. The first one gets the most and the last one comes in second for some reason. They tend to isolate more and are more independent (sounds a bit like what you are saying).

They also end up being the best adjusted of the birth order - kind of an even keel as far as responsibility, creativeness, not as anal retentive, and good with money. Last borns are the worst at managing money and tend to have worse credit as far as stats go. Much more impulsive and spontaneous. First borns are extremely structured and routine. Sometimes to the point of being dysfunctional.

I would bet that there is a relationship between first borns/only children and anorexia, also, but I am too lazy to look into it.

Skip

closet homosexuals, lmao!!