Staying interested with you significant other

Does anyone know how to keep a relationship feeling new like when you first meet?

I always meet a girl and am really interested in her and after a while it is like wearing an old shoe you just want to wear a new one because it smells new and feels newer it just feels nice but you don't want to throw out the old one cause it is broke in. I feel like this and so do a lot of my friends why? Is it because when we were single we are exposed to so much that it takes more than one girl to keep you interested? Please help me understand that I am not messed up or maybe I am and how do you get to be normal?

I just want to spread my seed.... I mean steed!

I think it takes discipline and effort, just like everything else in life.

jake steed said:

Does anyone know how to keep a relationship feeling new like when you first meet?

I always meet a girl and am really interested in her and after a while it is like wearing an old shoe you just want to wear a new one because it smells new and feels newer it just feels nice but you don't want to throw out the old one cause it is broke in. I feel like this and so do a lot of my friends why? Is it because when we were single we are exposed to so much that it takes more than one girl to keep you interested? Please help me understand that I am not messed up or maybe I am and how do you get to be normal?

I just want to spread my seed.... I mean steed!

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I think some of the problem is peer pressure-it is the "manly" thing to do-you know , go after new women. As for me, well I usually found that as time went on the relationship got better-the sex always got better that is for sure-as you get to know someone better you know what they like and what gets them revved up. As for keeping interest up-don't get caught in a rut-YOU have to make things exciting, don't just sit around and wait for things to get exciting. You and your girl can keep things interesting and exciting if you put your minds to it!

Usually it comes with age...lol.

Really though...You have to find someone that you're truely happy with...someone that fulfills everything that you want in another person. Once you find someone like that then you shouldn't have any desire to be with someone else...and bam problem solved...

it does take a lot of effort on both parts

Seems I always lose intrest had quite a few longterm relationships most go bad for me about 3rd yr, if they make it that long.

Hard to keep the fire burning like that blues singer said
"The thrill is gone!"
Maybe I just been unlucky got a great girl now but I am growing bored and unattracted to her already, if your lucky you may find that special soul-mate.

Honestly I wouldn't worry about it. Nothing is set in stone and you can't predict everything that will happen in the future. Do what makes you happy...

Yeah. I am working hard saving my money to build that castle like mr. hugh m. hefner! I think that is the route I need to take.

I wish I had an answer for you but I have been fighting that battle all my life. A couple of good pointers so far though from people.

it takes a little imagination

don't sit home all the time, get up in the middle of the night and go somewhere together

it's hard work, no doubt about it

I'll give you something to think about. What do you do when you get bored in a relationship? Find ways to make it better....or look for something more interesting? A relationship is the biggest committment you'll ever make, and what you make of it will depend on your maturity and your character. Every relationship will grow tired after a while, even if it's a pairing made in heaven. Looking over the other side of the fence will always be a temptation, at any point in your life. The new will always be more enticing than the old. It's so easy to just get up and walk away. Any loser can do that. It's not the "manly" thing to do as Supersport called it; it's the comfortable thing to do (women can dump men just as easily as men can dump women). NOw, what you do with that depends on you. I have found it to be a generally reliable rule that how you behave in your relationship reflects upon how you behave towards anything else in your life that concerns any person other than yourself. The true measure of a man is when he can sit down and stay there, even when the going gets tough, doing his best to make it better, even though he would want to be somewhere else. And the true quality of a man is when, despite all adversities and problems, he does make it better.

Personally I think if youre dateing someone and its a pain in the ass or boring..move on. It should be great at that phase of the relationship! Age has a lot to do with it. When you are young your not sure what you want, but you think you do. There are zillions of chics that fit into the wide window of what you think you want.The good thing about young is you are moldable and can learn to like something.
With age you zero in on what it is you really want, by knowing what you DONT want. The problem here is now your starting to narrow the feild. But when someone fits the specifications youre looking for , you know it.
I'd play the field until you found the one tha is easy to be with ..all the time not just knocking it out. Some one that shares your interests and doesnt want to take the important things in your life away (ie the GYM) Relationships really are about both partners being givers.

good advice.

When you get older you worry more about where you left your old shoes than going out buying new ones.

LOL

saturn said:

When you get older you worry more about where you left your old shoes than going out buying new ones.

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lol....good answer

I have no idea where I left mine....

I think no matter what it is going to get old so it is pointless for me.... what am I to do next time role play.....

She can be the maid and I will be the king.... clean the house, feed me, blow me, bring me another woman, leave me alone!

LMAO...