I am begging you all to please help me

I am 26yrs old and have had a few girlfriends b4. 6 months ago I met the girl of my dreams. You see I live in california near a University and here almost all girls are sluts and they are stuck up as hell too. So to have been blessed with a girl like this has been the best thing in my life. She was born and raised here but has grown to hate life in this town, really expensive and people are not what they use to be. 7 days ago she informed me that she had decided to move to Savannah, Georgia. She leaves this Sunday to put a bid on a home and for some job interviews. I am at week 5 of my bulking cycle. For the past 7 days I have been only able to sleep for 1-2 hours per day I have lost 10lbs so far. My life is devastated beyon believe. I was worndering if I went to the doctor to get some anti depressents which I have never used will it help the pain? I know I sound like a high school kid. But I sincerely believe from the bottom of my heart I will NEVER find another girl like this one. I have nothing bad to say about this girl she gave me respect,care,kindness,love and loyalty. I would never hurt myself but I wish I was not alive at this moment. I trust all of you so you are the only ones that will hear the following, I haven't even told my best friend which I have know since the age of 5. But, I can't stop crying and want the pain to stop what else can I do

just for the record tha "Registered Pimp" shit on my name is just for play. I am just your averge guy nothing special really. It just seems that all good things in my life either come to an end or are taken away from me. I am not a bad person, I don't fight I try to respect everyone as much as possible. The only drugs I take are AS. I love and care for my family and I work my ass of to have the things I now have. So why do I deserve this? At times I wonder if god hates me and has forgotten about me....

She has real guts to strike out on her on in Savannah. If she is that important to you maybe you should do the same. If you are not willing to give up your present locale for her then you need to get over it and drugs will not help much. Yeah...this is a guy who still gets pissed from what his first wife did to him.

Very true, and she may be back soon anyways. I live in ga and Savannah SUX. If you think the humidity sux in New Orleans, its nothing compared to Savannah. Not to mention the job market there is in the shitter. And theres NO WAY she can comute from Savannah to Atlanta since thats where the jobs are. Its an 4+ hours drive each way.

Dont take this the wrong way but i dont think this will be a smart move at all, i visit Savannah from time to time and theres nothing there no job growth so i dont see the reason for anyone wanting to move there.

I am fairly new to this site and im not an expert on bodybuilding but maybe my advice will be helpful on this topic. I think this girl is following her dreams. Why should she stay in a place that makes her miserable? a place that she is not happy living in ?. I am 100% sure that she loves you but maybe she needs to do things for herself. Im sure its as hard on her to move as it is for you to watch her go. The fact is Elmonizzle this girl is trying to better her life. She is trying to achieve her dreams and goals and its good that shes not just sticking around because of a guy. How bad would you feel if she stuck around in Cali not enjoying her life and simply settling for what was there because you wanted her to stay. You need to let her follow her dreams and be supportive. If things are really meant to be then you guys will be together. MY bf and I live four hours apart which is small in some ways but It is still worth it. You can make a long distance relationship work. Its not the end of the world. Plan trips to see each other. Talk about the future and what you guys both want. Maybe she will move and you can stay there til your ready to meet up with her in Georgia. Or else maybe she will get sick of Georgia and you two will endup moving somewhere together. The fact is its not the end of the world. Theres alot worse girls out there. Girls who cheat and sleep around the fact is you have a NICE girl who seems like she really loves you so you need to be supportive and let her follow her dreams. If it is meant to be it will and in the mean time stay in touch with her and let her know how feel about her.

Take Care
and keep smiling

I would never ask her to stay just for me, even if she told me that she would stay if I asked her to. I know that if its meant to be than we will be together. However I am somewhat hurt by the fact that she only seems sad when I talk to her and she has not cried or shown any emotions that I have. I am not saying that she should be misserable or cry her heart out every 5 minutes. Kind of makes me worder if she may not love me as much as I love her. I have told her that all I want is for here to be happy. Weather its here with me or here with someone else or in Savannah. But if any of you would know how fucked up of a life I have had since I was a child you would understand that when you find someone like that you tend to cherish them more than someone who has had it good both with girls and life. I know that unfurtunately this will have a big affect on my live and what I think about "love". I just hope its not for the worst as I fear that thats where this is going. I am crushed and can only hope to stop hurting as soon a possible. thank you all for your input.

da fonz, she is applying for retail and hotel jobs do they pay well over there? Right now she gets paid $14hr +comm Also I was told the weather is only bad in the summer not during this time is this true bro?

Man, Savannah BLOWS, there is no job market down there. She could prob find a job but WHY in the hell would anyone want to work there let alone live there. Tell her to move to Atlanta where there are Alot of jobs

I dunno what to tell you, Savannah is a cool place to vist but I dont think she has thought this through at all. The crime rate down there is HORRIBLE. The job market SUX ASS. The weather blows.

If you ask me i think she just wants a change of senery and there are WAY Better places to live then there.

I know this sounds cold but IMHO, i would get rid of her. Women are like water there everwhere.

well she is really into the Victorian homes, she loves that stuff and ever since we saw a movie with jude law, Kevin speacy and John Cusak(spelling?) She fell in love with Savannah. I hope for the best. Here guys try to mack on her all of the time so overthere she will have guys lined up around the corner for her. For good looking women it is easy to forget the people that love them since they have so many others to choose from, I think. In a way I wish I had never met her, the love was great but the pain is even greater.

and yes, I know what some of you are thinking. "Another punk ass winning about his girl friend leaving, as if he was the only one who has gone through this." If you do, than I don't blame you because I have thought the same thing of others at some point. But, believe me when I say this. It is ALOT easier said than done and it will be one of the worst things in your life when it happens to you. Also its not the attention or pitty I seek. its advice. thanks again

I am a former arkie who has traveled the south in the 80's and 90's.
I find Savannah boring for the same reason that many find it attractive.
It is more along the lines of the old South. People are never in a hurry, politeness is more important than competence, and old customs are held in very high regard.
Atlanta is very fast paced in the finance, real estate, banking, industrial and political sectors. People are ruder (but not nearly as rude as New Orleans or the big northern cities) less patient and in many cases truculent for no reason at all.
As to humidity.....I think the big city champ is Houston. You freeze at the Airport then are hit with a hot bucket of humid air that soaks your shirt as fast as perspiration soaks your crotch. None of these cities has as many stupid people as Newark, Boston, Atlantic City, Brooklyn, Staten Island, or The Bronx.

see thats my problem bro, I know there are alot of women out there she is not the only one. And wish I could just say well then good riddens. thats the painful part, not the fact the she is gone if that makes sense. I am at peace with not having her around its realizing it that hurts. fuck life man!

Elmonizzle, i know how you feel. i know the pain you feel, like you can't breath, and there's a pin stuck in your heart that hurts all the time. i know you are so focused on right now and your current situation, but sit back and breath bro. seriously, before you keep reading this take 5 seconds and sit back with your eyes closed and just breath man.





things will get better. if you have to call eachother on the phone and ar eonly able to see eachother once a month, it can still work. but you also have to be realistic bro, i know this is hard to hear but this also could be the end...and you have to realize and accept that. if you haven't yet, tell her how you feel. tell her everything, your concerns/fears about her moving away, why you want to be with her, everything. that way it's all out on the table and there's nothing left unsaid.

i also think you got a great woman's perspective from fitchick. take to heart what she said, women usually have a different perspective on things and i'm sure she knows what this girl is thinking/feeling. GOOD LUCK BRO!

elmonizzle....i was in a different situation, but from what it sounds like it was equally as painfull for me, when i had to accept the fact that it was over rather than sitting around dwelling on the pain of the loss, i got busy doing things i wanted to do.....especially at work. I was a GM for dominos pizza at the time, and i got myself motivated to be the best gm in the franchise of 80+ stores at the time, and just before the franchise sold over to corporate I was pretty close to #1, they were talking about training me to be a regional manager at age 21 w/ less than a full year as a gm because of the results i was producing and the fire that i had. That fire was fueled by the pain i was going through, and the rewards i was reaping was like the medicine i needed to make me feel better about myself and life in general.Plus when you surround yourself w/ other things its easy to forget about your current situation. Anyways, it worked for me.....maybe set some goals, at work or w/ things you've wanted to do w/ your personal life but have put off for one reason or another. Just a thought, its helped me to go that route when i've been down bro.

ColdHeartBear said:

I am a former arkie who has traveled the south in the 80's and 90's.
I find Savannah boring for the same reason that many find it attractive.
It is more along the lines of the old South. People are never in a hurry, politeness is more important than competence, and old customs are held in very high regard.
Atlanta is very fast paced in the finance, real estate, banking, industrial and political sectors. People are ruder (but not nearly as rude as New Orleans or the big northern cities) less patient and in many cases truculent for no reason at all.
As to humidity.....I think the big city champ is Houston. You freeze at the Airport then are hit with a hot bucket of humid air that soaks your shirt as fast as perspiration soaks your crotch. None of these cities has as many stupid people as Newark, Boston, Atlantic City, Brooklyn, Staten Island, or The Bronx.

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fawk the humidity in houston is a biatch.....anyone who says they have bad humidity needs to spend a nice hot summer day in houston before they complain.......i grew up in houston, now living in az and i miss the humidity like i miss all the misquitos n fleas there.

I've been to Houston and newsflash its NOT as bad. I have friends in Texas so i frquent a bunch of places. Trust me SAVANNAH is worse than Houston.


Elmonizzle, I wouldnt worry bout her getting hit on. I would say most of the women down here are hot as the weather and so she wont be any different. Nothing special just ordinary.

I have been to Savannah in 1997 june 19 to 2nd week in July. Nasty but standable. Houston in 1st week in July, 1980 and again 1991 august 12th. both times at the airport and local motels. Houston wins the heat and humidity contest for big cities. The real winner was Texarkana, AR 1994 august 1. I literally had to get back in my truck after 15 minutes taking photos. Not even the afternoon shower helped.

OK, ok. There both shitty in the summer time. I hated Savannah in the summer cause of the heat, himidity, and all that damn rain. It rains during the majority of the summer down there.

At anyrate, i dont see why someone would volitarily move there. Atlanta has better oppurtunities in the hospitaility industry by far.

Hey Elmonizzle.
I want to tell you my story cause i think it might help.

While in College I met my wonderful boyfriend. We stayed together every single day. Id come home from class and hed be in my room waiting for me. Id fall asleep and hed be there and Id wake up and he'd be there. There was nothing better than it. At the end of my first year his program was over so he wouldnt be returning back for my next year of schooling. I was super upset and super worried. I live four hours away from him and I was going home for the summer. I remember getting into the car that last day of school and thinking that i was never going to see him again. I was scared he was going to forget me, I was scared he was going to find another girlfriend who was closer to where he lived. I was scared and upset about EVERYTHING. But..... he assured me that we were going to be okay. He called me everyday to keep in touch. We emailed and MSN'd and whatever chance we would get we would go visit each other. We'd send calenders or pictures of each other and we would really focus on us. In my second year I was excited to go back because I knew that we'd only be an hour and a half apart. He would come and visit every weekend or else i would go there. Phone calls, letters, emails. Sure it was hard but we survived it. Right now i am done school and we are once again living four hours apart. It is really really really hard but we make it work because we want to make it work. I think you to can make this work. It sounds like she really cares. It doesnt matter if she doesnt cry over it. I understand that cause im like that too. When my boyfriend drops me off at the bus stop or when he has to leave i make him leave really fast so i dont break down crying because i get embarrassed over it. I totally understand where your girl is coming from. I think maybe she just wants to go see things. I think that she has some dreams or goals she has to go research and maybe living in savanah is one of those. I think that you should be supportive and really stress to her that you love her and that you are going to make this work because you care about her and your not ready to lose her. TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. Tell her that you are scared and upset but that you understand and your going to be there waiting for her no matter what her decision is. LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS WORK. Its about trust. Me and my boyfriend always tell each other where we are going. We inform each other of who we are hanging out with and always talk about our future and goals and dreams. I really appreciate that he supports my decisions to do things and where i want to go and where i want to work. It is definitely hard but we try not to look at it as being one more day apart but instead as one more day until we get to be together forever.
Things will work out. Dont worry about it. And i really dont think you should take the advice of KICKING HER TO THE CURB cause THERE ARE MANY MORE FISHES IN THE SEA. It sounds like you really love this girl and that your genuine and sincere. I think you should follow you heart and make sure she knows you love her.