Loaded Questions..

It's in their blood man...it's like breathing. All I can figure is they do this to make themselves feel better. It's as if they're telling you how to answer before they ask the quesiton. And I agree, they make better lawyers.

Dude.....lying about things that you know are right is never wrong. I would never tell my girl about using gear.....she watches too much tv for me to even have an argument about using gear

Good point Nick. I ended up telling my gf about the gear. I tried to reason w/ her but comeback was always too hard to argue, "Why would all the magazines and new stories lie?"

B2S. I had the same problem with my wife, but with "How many girls have you been with"? this always hit me hard because when we married she was a virgin. I personally never ask a question I don't want to know the answer to. First I think about the possible answers then I weigh them against not knowing at all, and I figure if it's worth it to ask. So, my friend, think of it as "Protecting her from herself" and LIE! Trust me, she doesn't want to know the answer, and you have put years of research into something she think she knows more about (WHICH SHE DOESN'T). so just realize you are not lying just to be lying, you are lying to salvage a possible long term relationship. Which will inevitably make you grow.

This is a good advice thread. Does anyone dissagree w/ lying to protect her from herself? I'd like a devils advocate.

I disagree, but only slightly based on my views. In reality, lying to her would be the "smarter" thing to do so if I had to give advice, it would be to lie, especially if you really like her. If it were me, I would tell her the truth. I hate people who judge and would not want to be with one. I would take the risk and say yes because if she doesn't want to be with you anymore based on that...then who cares. She doesn't like the real you so why would you want to be with her right? That's just the way I look at things. I have nothing to hide and if you don't like it, see ya....

I told my girlfriend a while back and I would probably be using sometime in the future and just like Jaywooly said, it's a winless arguement. You know the facts, she goes by news and media. We argue about it from time to time, but I'm not going to cave, it's who I am and if she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to be with me...

bravo PJT, bravo...

It took some crying and talking and her crying some more but even though she doesn't like it,she doesn't really bother me about it. She was actually giving me shots .. she's a nurse and gives the best painless shots ... for a while but i knew it bothered her seeing me do it,so i do the shots myself now. She will come in the kitchen every now and then seeing me loading up the pin but she won't say anything. She will watch sometimes,but i don't think it really bothers her that much anymore. She knows that i know a lot about it and how to do it. .. If your GIRLFRIEND doesn't know,i say keep it a secret as long as possible because they can and will use that against you if you ever break up. If you plan on marrying her or really trust her,i say it's much better and alot easier to get it out in the open. My friend's wife doesn't know so he has to get up at 3-4am just to shoot. I'm just glad i have nothing to hide now

Be honest with her bro. Explain it's like "pro choice". You don't tell her what to do with her body.... She should respect your right to do what you want with yours. Who knows maybe you can educate her on the subject.

body2see said:

Kinda odd?

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guess shes more concerned with not getting beat by her man :laugh:

so I guess thats one point in the "normal" category for her.

I would not let on bending of the truth break me down. It isn't like I nailed her best friend, that might eat away at me. The thing about most women, they will ask you questions all the time and always go for something that isn't the easiest to discuss. I just keep in mind, like Chris Rock said, "There whole life is a lie!" That's the way to think. You ask me something like how many chicks have I slept with I will fire right back with "you havent had any abortions have you?" Or something of that nature. Luckily I have passed that stage for now.