Leave it alone or go after it? Need your help on this one!

Well here goes and hope you guys can help. Anyway I hooked up with this chick last Thursday nite that went into the the next morning. She's a friend of
a guy I work with(he wants her and does not know we hook up) and she was up for the night from another town. Well in order for me to even get a chance with this women I had to ignore her the entire night before she got pissed and finally came around and asked why I was doing so. One thing lead to another and I ended up hitting that ass all night long. She is 11 yrs younger than me and she
"loves" older men so she says! Also a personal trainer and goes to school. Girl is by far one of the hottest women I have ever been with and I made the mistake by telling her so. You know in the heat of passion or should I say "lust" you just say things anythings to get that ass. Well after we talked and found out we have alot in common and we would like to maybe do more then just hook up.
She just got out of relationship with 38yr old of 2 years and has only been out on the market for month and a half. I myself have not wanted to get into a relationship for some time after being burnt. Anyway we exchanged #'s and have spoken twice since then. I have a few things that trouble me about it all. One I do not want to be the rebound guy for her. Two I do not want to upset the guy I work with cause it is an unpleasent thing. Three, I wonder what could come of this. I will not lie I would love to be with this chick but do not know her that well. I am confussed and need to know what you guys thing. Should I just ignore her again and let her come to me and let her tell me what she wants? Or should I just walk away and say just another hook up and just let it alone? Help bro's!! The bootie has got my head all messed up. Peace!:thumbsup:

Here is a woman's opinion...
I don't think you are the rebound guy..a month and a half is enough time to move on especially if she "has been on the market" as you said..she obviously is attracted to you since she is conscious of the fact that you were ignoring her, but trust me my friend if she was trying to get over someone you would have sensed a vibe after spending an entire night with her. But how good of a lay she was or how attractive you find her is no grounds to base a relationship on. I think you are giving it too much thought..just take things as they come. But ignoring her and playing games is childish IMO. However the thing that DOES concern me is your friend..would you risk his friendship for a piece of ass? Ask yourself that question and your worries will be over.

nvs

N.V.S, thank you for giving me a womens point of view. As far as a vibe from her it is hard to tell theses days. No dis-respect but girls play man just as well as they play us.
True on the part how good of a piece of ass she was and how attractive she is, are no grounds for relationship! Props on that one for sure. The thing that you have hit right on the head is that I do think about it too much. Like I said I have spoke to her twice since then but have been short ones. We are both very bussy with school, work and training. I love the fact we have so much in common and are both "free sprits" and just want to roam. I do not want to play childish games but in turn do not want to be a bother to her. Yes, this girl "rocked" my world and I have met my match as far as being a sexual "FREAK". but again no means to base a relationship. As far as the friend!/? He is just a co-worker but hang out from time to time. I have had one other problem with him before with a girl we work with. I walked away and said its all yours bro. I try not to piss in peoples backyards so to speak. This girl that I speak of that I have alot in common with told me that they are just friends and have been since high school. The guy is a great person but I do not consider him a true friend. Tell me what I should do girl about her. I just want to be all good! Any help is always wanted and needed. Peace

Spartan warrior said:

N.V.S, thank you for giving me a womens point of view. As far as a vibe from her it is hard to tell theses days. No dis-respect but girls play man just as well as they play us.
True on the part how good of a piece of ass she was and how attractive she is, are no grounds for relationship! Props on that one for sure. The thing that you have hit right on the head is that I do think about it too much. Like I said I have spoke to her twice since then but have been short ones. We are both very bussy with school, work and training. I love the fact we have so much in common and are both "free sprits" and just want to roam. I do not want to play childish games but in turn do not want to be a bother to her. Yes, this girl "rocked" my world and I have met my match as far as being a sexual "FREAK". but again no means to base a relationship. As far as the friend!/? He is just a co-worker but hang out from time to time. I have had one other problem with him before with a girl we work with. I walked away and said its all yours bro. I try not to piss in peoples backyards so to speak. This girl that I speak of that I have alot in common with told me that they are just friends and have been since high school. The guy is a great person but I do not consider him a true friend. Tell me what I should do girl about her. I just want to be all good! Any help is always wanted and needed. Peace

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Well if you want to be in a relationship, you don't want a girl to roam too much if you know what i mean...you said it, some women play men like a fiddle so don't get into something that could get your burnt again.
You might want to know what she is looking for at this point considering most people get out of long relationships and just want to have a little fun ie Not rushing into another commitment. You cannot be worried about being a bother to a person if you are attracted to them, because you want them to like you exactly the way you are, so don't start accomodating her so soon. Just be yourself, most spontaneous actions can be very sweet and attractive to women, just as most games and nonchalant attitudes can be a turn off. Plus you can miss out on some great opportunities in life when you are so cautious. Just enjoy her, call her as often as you like, see what makes her tick. Plenty young and pretty pieces of ass out there, you don't want a trophy girl or wife, you want a partner for life. It always seems thrilling in the beginning but keep in mind that THAT feeling doesn't last then you are stuck with who she REALLY was to begin with, before you were blinded by your heart, in this case, her ass. LOL
All jokes aside, if you are thinking on the long haul, just be yourself and enjoy getting to know her. If you just wanna "roam free" with a "free spirit", then hit it until you can't wait to quit. Then move on.
And your "friend", his loss if it works out for y'all.

nvs

TRUE THAT to all you have said girl!!! PROPS all the way. I'm not sure if I want the relationship thing or not but would just like to hang out from time to time to see how it is.

Thank you again. Peace

N.V.S., well girl you are so right with all your knowledge. I just spoke with her and had a nice converstation with her. We both would like nothing more then to be with eachother and agree that what happened almost a week ago was wonderful and want to hook up again and take care of each others needs. As far as getting into a relationship we both said if it happens it happens. So we are both on the same page. I'll take the friends with beniffits thing any day instead of nothing at all. Thanks again for the words of wisdom. Peace!

Spartan warrior said:

N.V.S., well girl you are so right with all your knowledge. I just spoke with her and had a nice converstation with her. We both would like nothing more then to be with eachother and agree that what happened almost a week ago was wonderful and want to hook up again and take care of each others needs. As far as getting into a relationship we both said if it happens it happens. So we are both on the same page. I'll take the friends with beniffits thing any day instead of nothing at all. Thanks again for the words of wisdom. Peace!

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Great
You gonna be a very busy man because women are very "needy" creatures. lol
Glad it worked out either way buddy.

nvs

alot of chick do really like older men !

Noel, thamk you for the response.................I do not know why but I do like younger women! And "NO" it's not cuz it gives me the feeling of being younger. I can just relate sometimes better with people younger then myself. One other thing................"NICE" picture.............anymore? Peace

O.K.: oldtimers opinion. NVS covered it good. You are thinking too much. Hook up
again and just enjoy each others company. Keep going like that. See if you still like
each other after a few times.Take it from there. In my experience the relationships that last usually start out slow. My sugestion, keep it slow. If the conection is there, it will grow.