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The Dude
09-22-2009, 12:59 PM
Have any of you ever had to ask for money from a family member other than your parents?? I've gone through a lot these last few years... Divorce, injury, unemployed, but I've never had to ask for money. Now I have to due to a number of unforeseen expenses and my injury. My uncle is very wealthy and has always said he would help me if I needed it. I guess I'm too proud to ask, but I think I have to. I won't be able to pay my bills this month since I've been out for a month and it looks like I'll be out another couple months. My divorce cleaned me out, but I made it through. I paid for a trip a couple months ago and it is non refundable. Right before the trip I found that I needed new tires. Then I got injured and couldn't work at all much less the OT to make up for the expenses. I don't know what to say.

The Dude
09-22-2009, 02:49 PM
I just got off the phone. It was terrible until he started asking about my injury and my financial situation. He was generally concerned and agreed to help me without making me feel like a piece of shit. He's going to send me whatever I need each month until I'm back on my feet. I'm very fortunate even in unfortunate times. I'm hoping to get some real treatment this time. I don't want to waste the IGF on this.... unless my insurance will pay!!

dreww
09-22-2009, 05:38 PM
i understand. im very prideful too, but more than that, ive always been self sufficient. asking to borrow money hurts me more than anyone else.

The Dude
09-23-2009, 05:19 PM
i understand. im very prideful too, but more than that, ive always been self sufficient. asking to borrow money hurts me more than anyone else.

I have a great deal of pride and consider myself self sufficient as well. For most of my life I took care of myself and some shitty girlfriend or my whore of an exwife and kept them all living VERY comfortably. Now I have an awesome, although sometimes stubborn, girlfriend who is totally self sufficient and has been trying to give me a little help here and there without me noticing as she knows that it hurts my pride. I've just never had to ask for money..... help from friends sure.... on of them being on this board, but never money. My exwife made this situation possible... its been near 2 years and I still haven't recovered financially.

Crazymank
09-23-2009, 07:27 PM
I never borrow money without an agreement of how it will be paid back.

I think i've done this twice in my life, but it was with my dad.

The Dude
09-23-2009, 08:01 PM
I never borrow money without an agreement of how it will be paid back.

I think i've done this twice in my life, but it was with my dad.

I agree and that is how I wanted it, but my Uncle would not entertain the idea. He said "you have enough to worry about and you have no idea how long you will be out, I trust you to pay it back as you can". This made me feel good, but also kind of shitty. He is a multi millionaire, but we have always had a kind of "equal" relationship and now I don't feel that way.