LOOKING FOR SOME ADVICE FROM WOMEN

musclehead

musclehead

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Im stuck in kind of a dilemna. I have been dating this girl for like the last 6 months and we really clicked together and have been really close for the whole time. Anyways things have been excellent until these last three previous weeks. She has tried to keep her distance and i haven't seen her once. She still always calls me at night before she goes to bed, and now she hasn't done that for like the last couple of days. I know she still loves me and she says that she doesn't think about anything else when she is with me and she says this is the problem. When she is with me she loses track of her life and all she does is think about me and doesn't worry about anything else. Dont get me wrong i dont want her to throw her life away or anything like that, but it isnt fair to me to just be put off to the side. The one problem is that i love her so much and we are just perfect for each other. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!! :confused:
 
wow. I dont know what to tell you. I had to break up with the love of my life to get my life together it was probably the hardest thing i ever had to do. He is so the right guy its just not the right time. If its meant to be it will be.. thats what i tell myself everyday. I would just let it be ,as hard as it is.. good luck:)
 
Enchantra said:
wow. I dont know what to tell you. I had to break up with the love of my life to get my life together it was probably the hardest thing i ever had to do. He is so the right guy its just not the right time. If its meant to be it will be.. thats what i tell myself everyday. I would just let it be ,as hard as it is.. good luck:)
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OMG.
That is exactly what she is going through
 
Like I said Just give it time. You defenitly dont want to ruin anything. Time will tell if its meant to be or not. I know it sucks trust me, but in the end it all works out:)
 
sorry i stand inncorrct. WE BOTH DECEIDED TO BREAK UP. IT WAS NOT MY OWN DECESION.IT WAS A DECESION THE BOTH OF US MADE, I DONT WANT TO MAKE ANYONE MAD
 
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Enchantra said:
I had to break up with the love of my life to get my life together it was probably the hardest thing i ever had to do.
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you had to,lol. Whatever you say babe.
 
I feel with ya Bro... i'm stuck in somthing vary similar....:(

There's nothing better than loving someone,.. but it sure can fuck you up big time!

Stick with it Bro but give her the space she needs, it will pay off in the end..
Remember that if you want to know if something really yours, then set it FREE. If it comes back to you it yours forever, if not, then it was never really yours to begin with!
 
If she seems to want space then give it to her.. Just let her know that you are there if she needs you and if she loves you then she'll come around soon enough!!!
 
Well heres my update:

I got the nasty ass e-mail about an hour ago saying wrong time and place because some other fuck shes seing half way around the world came first.... bla bla bla... I hate my addiction to women because they always seem to fuck me over! :(
 
Chemical Evolution said:
btw sorry musclehead if i'm steeling your thread!
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no worries man, by the way sorry to hear about your situation, i honestly know that it sucks. Sounds like we should go out clubbin together and pick up as many scandilous hoes that we can in order to forget about our so called girlfriends.
 
Well here is my take....I also agree that if you let her go and she comes back then bla bla.... but then I also think that if she really needs space to find out how she feels about you, shouldn't that show how much she is really devoted in your relationship?
I think I read that you are 19 Musclehead. I'm 28 and if I knew what I know now about women (im still learning) when I was your age, I would give her the space but look for someone else in the meantime. Don't put your life on hold for a "maybe". There are plenty of women in the world and there is someone who can make you happy.I went through what you are doing about 8 months ago and it SUCKED. I gave her the space and it ending up not working out. I learned from it. But summer is still here and I have been having the time of my life!
 
MacGyver said:
Well here is my take....I also agree that if you let her go and she comes back then bla bla.... but then I also think that if she really needs space to find out how she feels about you, shouldn't that show how much she is really devoted in your relationship?
I think I read that you are 19 Musclehead. I'm 28 and if I knew what I know now about women (im still learning) when I was your age, I would give her the space but look for someone else in the meantime. Don't put your life on hold for a "maybe". There are plenty of women in the world and there is someone who can make you happy.I went through what you are doing about 8 months ago and it SUCKED. I gave her the space and it ending up not working out. I learned from it. But summer is still here and I have been having the time of my life!
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I know what you are talkin about. I really love her and i wanna be with her, but there is this FRIEND that has been helping me through this. My girl is great man, drop dead gorgeous, no attitude, wicked personality its gonna be hard to let her go, but now im at the point of thinking millions of chicks in the world theres gotta be someone better, in the meanwhile these flings will just have to do.
 
I keep trying to decide wether or not to say this, but here goes. I am going to be brutely honest here, and let guys in on a little secret. 99% of the time when a woman says, I need/want space...or I need/want a little break.....This mean, I want to date other guys (and some times this means, I just don't want you to date other women yet, incase I change my mind) If a woman says, I think we need to start seeing other people......this means, I have found someone else (or I have been seeing someone else all ready) I just thought I would let the guys here at MC in on some of the female language...hehe
 
Dude she's probably cheating on ya---people tend to distance themselves from the people they have wronged. Your GF is giving the classic signs of someone that was once happy and is now unhappy--so I will bet that she is finding happiness somewhere else.
 
I think that you should just move on. You're way to young to be waiting around. There are plenty others out there. And space?? She probably is seeing someone else.....that "I need space" is a bunch of bullshit.
 
I have to agree with SpanishFly on this one, she is seeing someone else, or intends to. What does it mean when YOU say you need your space? I know what it means when I say it....
 
Dezir said:
I keep trying to decide wether or not to say this, but here goes. I am going to be brutely honest here, and let guys in on a little secret. 99% of the time when a woman says, I need/want space...or I need/want a little break.....This mean, I want to date other guys (and some times this means, I just don't want you to date other women yet, incase I change my mind) If a woman says, I think we need to start seeing other people......this means, I have found someone else (or I have been seeing someone else all ready) I just thought I would let the guys here at MC in on some of the female language...hehe
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I would agree with this statement. From my experinces this is 100% true. The girl wants space and doesn't want you to do anything while she dates other guys or whatever. If you do go out with another woman then they get pissed and rant and rave about it but they won't tell you that they are dating others. You have to wait and find out from someone else that it was going on. Just my two cents.:D
 
NO WAIT! Perhaps I am just a hopeless romantic or something!

While I agree some chicks AND guys use the space thing as a nice way to say I need to sow my oats-- it is not always true. I did give my man the space he needed...and he did alittle side action -- but I have to say, giving him the time and space and freedom he needed was critical. It was not long at all before he sat me down and just put everything else aside and we just formed this incredible bond...MORE than before. Better than ever.

That was over a year ago and we bought at house together and are getting married this year. I have to say it was not easy...but necessary.

I would not be rash in your thinking...while I mean to also say do not let yourself get stepped on.....let her know you care about her immensely -- do what she needs to do ..... and you will also offer yourself the same. However, while you will give her the space she needs, you will not allow yourself to be used and/or crushed. If you say it softly and without attitude, she will not be offended and most likely will run thru the phase rather quickly.

Of course, this is if you think she is worth it!
 
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