Marriage Question

Spiderman

Spiderman

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I've got a buddy that just got married this morning and in all honesty I don't think it was the right move, but I could be wrong. He was having the coldest feet I ever remember anyone having. In the days leading up to it he was constantly talking about all of the things he couldn't do anymore once he was married. The problem is that his wife is pregnant so he felt that he had to marry her. On top of that he is living 15 yards from her parents house in a trailer they have provided. That spells disaster to me, but I wanted to get your opinions on the pregnancy issue. I don't think that just because you get someone pregnant you have to marry them. I think that is how a lot of marriages and lives end up ruined. If you're not ready to get married then don't do it no matter what...but what do you all think?
 
I think that is the wrong reason to go and get married. Yes he should stay with her and be there for the child and try and develop more of a relationship with the girl and see if marrying her is what he really wants. Jumpong into it does spell disaster in my eyes. I know it's great for the parents to be together and it is ideal in raising a child, but if a marriage starts like this, its likely they wont be anyways.

My opinion: BAD MOVE
 
i was 19 and just got out of Hobart Welding and i had my first welding job and got my girlfriend pregnant i was not really ready for marriage or a family for that matter but in my opinion it was my responability to marry her so i did. it was not easy at first but we have been married for almost 13 years now and wouldnt change a thing, and for my boys sake he needs a steady home life. i lived in a broken home and it does make a differents.
 
I come from a broken home too and can tell you that getting a girl pregnant is really not reason enough to marry her because in my opinion, the children suffer more when their parents do not get along than if they were raised with either parent without the other present. Of course i think it is ideal to have both parents in a child's life and the relationship of the parents is very important in the development of a child's psyche, but that does not mean that children cannot develop into very well adjusted individuals if they were well nurtured and cared for by one parent. Plus if all you can afford is a trailer, you cannot afford to have a child because your expenses are doubled and trippled if you want your children to be well provided for.

nvs
 
i agree, I think it's ridiculous to get married just b/c you got someone pregnant. I mean there already going to be part of your life no matter what and you may get married in the future, but to rush into it just because of the situation will either make you grow up quicker and take the responsibility you need to, or it will make you resent your wife and possibly your child for causing you to change your life when you weren't ready to...but it's all for naught now because the deed is done. I just hope it works out for him.
 
He should only have 1 funeral, and thats when he dies! Just kiddin' ........... he should deny,deny,deny! tell her its not his,and then take off..........wait maybe thats not right either........pull the fetus out with a coat hanger? I dont know bro, sounds like hes up shits creek without a paddle! He might just have to deal with it. TTL, i call it Take The Load!
 
well, this is all after the fact - you said he already got married. You never know,
it might work out. I think one of the reasons there are so many divorces these
days is because after a fight it is easier to say "Screw You" then to stick around
and work it out - then again you need two people who want it to work. Making
it work long term is hard work. Sometimes divorce is better. I think it is better
for a kid to come from a broken home then to live in one. The one main thing
he has to remember is the child comes first. I have seen to many people hate
their ex's more then they love their kid. Stress to him the importance of keeping
his priorities straight -the Kid is #1.
 
I have a little girl 10yrs old with a women i was with 10 years, we never married cause we kinda knew we never would, she always told me she never would or told me once atleasdt i think it didnt come up much as i wasnt the marrying type however was a relationship type,

and we still had a kid and didnt feel the need to marry, as for my current wife i met her and we got a place together in the first 4 weeks, tattoos in the 5th week, then married after 3-4 years and here we are now still 8 years later

so you know when you know, if that makes any sense. If you have any reservations dont do it

thats my 2cents, ill prolly be divorced before sunset now and jinxed my life forever , thats why i never talk about this shit

on a funnier note, do u have any idea how many tattoo parlors we had to go to before we found one that would tattoo each others name on us,lol, i think thats pretty commendable of them though
 
A good bud of mine has had 2 kids with his girl and they aren't married yet. I mean they are practically married, but legally they are not and it's probably not the best idea for them right now anyways. Problems aren't solved by marrying someone. If anything it could make matters worse.
 
ii was with my woman for 2 years, and co-signed for her so she could get a new vehicle. That shit didn't work out, and i consider my self very lucky i never got the girl infected with my demon-sperm!! :thumbsup:
 
My wedding is coming up in October and I cant wait because were cool together and she makes me want to do better all the time. But never will I marry someone and live anywhere near our parents. Her folks are in Cali, mine Texas. So were moving from San Diego to a mutual spot. This guy marrying her because she's pregnant was honarble yes, but eventually he will regret this. I hope it works out for him because marraige is something that should be done between two people who are really ready. Sounds like he's young or he may just dont want to deal with the pressure of not marrying her, but they should have talked this out first. A little pain now will save you from alot of pain later.
 
Presser said:
I have a little girl 10yrs old with a women i was with 10 years, we never married cause we kinda knew we never would, she always told me she never would or told me once atleasdt i think it didnt come up much as i wasnt the marrying type however was a relationship type,

and we still had a kid and didnt feel the need to marry, as for my current wife i met her and we got a place together in the first 4 weeks, tattoos in the 5th week, then married after 3-4 years and here we are now still 8 years later

so you know when you know, if that makes any sense. If you have any reservations dont do it

thats my 2cents, ill prolly be divorced before sunset now and jinxed my life forever , thats why i never talk about this shit

on a funnier note, do u have any idea how many tattoo parlors we had to go to before we found one that would tattoo each others name on us,lol, i think thats pretty commendable of them though
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My girlfirend and I have the same tatoos in the same spot as well:) Like you said, when you know you know!
 
Same tats thats way to girly for me, I have tats but you best believe Im not sporting a twin tat with anyone.Your right when you know you know, but same tats? nah I'll pass. Independent tats for independent thinkers
 
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