Girls that go after married men?!
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exbeanpole
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Yeah it happens a lot! I think most of the women that target married men do so because they assume they'll make better "fck buddies". I guess they figure married guys won't get attatched and are looking for the same things they are. 
mb97
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Completely agree with this!!!
Funny...this never happened to me when I was married. Must say something about me. lol.
Actually, I think it more has to do with the way married guys acts vs single guys. A married guy isn't normally going out to get laid and usually will be more open/honest, and respectful than the non-married guy. Maybe women like that instead. It's entirely possible that some women do indeed go after married guys, but that seems strange and a little psychotic to me.
Actually, I think it more has to do with the way married guys acts vs single guys. A married guy isn't normally going out to get laid and usually will be more open/honest, and respectful than the non-married guy. Maybe women like that instead. It's entirely possible that some women do indeed go after married guys, but that seems strange and a little psychotic to me.
SilkQuads
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I agree it's psychotic. I wish I were wrong, but I don't think it has anything to do with the married guys being more respectful. The group of girls I'm referring to are out looking for married men. I don't know the mindset behind it cuz I'm not one of those girls (just had to make that point clear
). If I had to guess, they like the challenge. Or like Ox said "wanting what you can't have" excites them. I don't know, I was just joking with The Dude the other night that he should take his wedding ring OFF when he went out with his friends and he gave me this weird look. That's when I told him about this group of women. I was just surprised he'd never heard of it.
SilkQuads
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Hey, don't feel bad...I'm a girl and I can't figure us out sometimes, LOL
georgeinaltus
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Married/ when do you call it quits.
I'm venting now cause I'm upset and you guys are a great bunch to vent to.
1. Haven't had sex with the wife in 6 months.
2. I'm the primary bread winner and have always provided for the family.
3. Great Dad. Been here the whole time for my kids. Coached their baseball teams. Taught to drive a car and all that good stuff.
4. Stay in shape and take care of my body.
5. Wife and I feel more like roommates than husband and wife after 20 yrs marriage.
6. She has low to no sex drive, so nothing is ever iniated unless I make the move or begg.
7. She went in for an annual physical and I asked her to ask the doc for a complete blood /hormone panel to check her estrogen/testosterone level and explain that she did not have any sex drive. She got home and I asked if she did it? NO! Did not mention it to the doc.
8. I'm only 40 and sex is still a very important part of my life. I still need to be touched and intimate.
9. If a woman is given everything, and not taking care of her mans needs, there is a woman out there willing to take what she has and give the man what he needs. I've told her this several times and she laughs thinking im joking.
10. I've considered walking out for a few days and say I want a trial separation. so I can drive the point home and then she might take me seriously
11. I've asked her if she is a closet lesbian and she denies that.
12. I will always love her, but I don't think I'm in love anymore.
What to do?
I'm venting now cause I'm upset and you guys are a great bunch to vent to.
1. Haven't had sex with the wife in 6 months.
2. I'm the primary bread winner and have always provided for the family.
3. Great Dad. Been here the whole time for my kids. Coached their baseball teams. Taught to drive a car and all that good stuff.
4. Stay in shape and take care of my body.
5. Wife and I feel more like roommates than husband and wife after 20 yrs marriage.
6. She has low to no sex drive, so nothing is ever iniated unless I make the move or begg.
7. She went in for an annual physical and I asked her to ask the doc for a complete blood /hormone panel to check her estrogen/testosterone level and explain that she did not have any sex drive. She got home and I asked if she did it? NO! Did not mention it to the doc.
8. I'm only 40 and sex is still a very important part of my life. I still need to be touched and intimate.
9. If a woman is given everything, and not taking care of her mans needs, there is a woman out there willing to take what she has and give the man what he needs. I've told her this several times and she laughs thinking im joking.
10. I've considered walking out for a few days and say I want a trial separation. so I can drive the point home and then she might take me seriously
11. I've asked her if she is a closet lesbian and she denies that.
12. I will always love her, but I don't think I'm in love anymore.
What to do?
lmao, bro that whole list is the same for most of us who have been married and together a long time, Wife and I are going on 13 years and marriage takes a whole lot more work then I would have ever imagined!!!
If you find the answers to your questions then please share them with me,lol, and write a book cause you'll be the richest man alive,lol.
Buffalo
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My wife and I have been married for 8 years and had a real rough patch lately but have been doing really good lately but a lot of work.
My wife and I have really slowed down in the sex department. I love her beyond measure but I always doubted if she really loved me as much back. Luckily I have a real close female friend and she recently got divorced from a husband that really had a sexual addiction, seriously beyond normal guy stuff. Funny I asked her about when she realized he had a problem because I was starting to think I had a problem for wanting it all of the time. From our long toward the end she asked me what I would do if she became a quadriplegic or became ill to the point where she could have sex at all! Like I said I love her and would never leave her so of course I could live the rest of my life without having sex.
My friend made a great point. She said that the sex therapist told her that the woman's libido drops soon after marriage and even more with kids and doesn't increase again into their 40's. My friend said that in all of those years she always felt like sex was a chore as so does my wife. I had to look at what I WASN'T doing. Sex wasn't just a drop of the pants anymore it is the whole romance thing. You know what I did bro, I told myself I was not going to grope her, tickle or make any moves that could make it seem sexual. I kept doing the romance and cuddling and I feel so much better. Yeah I look at her and just die inside how beautiful she is and how I want to have sex with her but we have been in a so much better place. It's only been a few days I haven't been moody or depressed and we have been having a great passed few days. If she wants to have sex I'll wait for her. Think about it this way, do you think you've pushed her away and of she is pushing back? Personally, and no offense at all but the I'm the man and treat me like a man is only going to make things worse and is a poor attitude to have to the partner that you said you would love no matter what. The way I lay it out on how I love my wife is; I'll walk behind her to support her, Walk in front of her to protect her and walk side by side through life.
I think marriage is a constant change and you sometimes have to step back and analyze things differently. I had to look at that my wife works graveyard for the police department and all reality only really sleeps one full day because we have two little boys, school and housework.
I shit you not; my wife is getting ready for work and I'm sitting on the couch and she walked up to me and bent over and gave me a kiss and said "I love you so much." To me bro, that is better than having her roll over for some half ass sex.
Let us know how you are doing though.
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The Dude
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Buffalo brings up some great points. I've only been with Silk for like 4 years, but it has gotten MUCH better in that time. When she isn't in the mood and I am, I try to just kiss her and hold her.... romance stuff, try to remember the little things she liked. Or just get her ass drunk!!!
SilkQuads
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Awwww Buffalo, you're so sweet! Your wife is lucky. Dude, you're ok too, Lol.......but on a serious note, George I really hope things work out for you and your wife. Like The Dude said, would you consider therapy? It's not for everyone, but it helped us. I've said it before, women are complicated creatures, I feel bad for you guys that have to try and figure out what's going on with us when often times we don't even know ourselves. That's why I would think about seeing a professional if I were you. Good luck.
Buffalo
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One thing that my wife is going through is that she feels depressed. My wife was to the point hat she wanted to leave me and not for another man but she said that she just wanted to be alone. I felt partly to blame for that bro and felt like shit. Now I just give her space but even do more romance and those little things I use to do.
Oh and I'll tell you this bro, it doesn't matter how good we look and how much money we make. Women in the end don't give a shit about that. I had as much sex as I did when I was overweight as I do now (once a week maybe). Her brothers ex wife left him last year for some dinky goofy guy. My brother in law is a cop, bodybuilder, really good looking and makes lots of money. In the end though he was an asshole.
Oh yeah, my wife got drunk at a party we went to and once in my truck on the way home and for about an hour at home and ruined my shirt I just bought because she tore it off of me and I tore her brand new dress. :gold:
Oh and I'll tell you this bro, it doesn't matter how good we look and how much money we make. Women in the end don't give a shit about that. I had as much sex as I did when I was overweight as I do now (once a week maybe). Her brothers ex wife left him last year for some dinky goofy guy. My brother in law is a cop, bodybuilder, really good looking and makes lots of money. In the end though he was an asshole.
Oh yeah, my wife got drunk at a party we went to and once in my truck on the way home and for about an hour at home and ruined my shirt I just bought because she tore it off of me and I tore her brand new dress. :gold:
georgeinaltus
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Presser, Buffalo, Silk and others, thanks so much for sharing. Its always nice to know that your not alone, and others go thru the same things in life.
If I figure it out, I will defeniatly write that book and dedicate it to Presser!
Buffalo, I plan to stick around, not going to leave the wife, can't do it man, not in me, said I do for richer or poorer, sickness and health. We are high school sweathearts. Been together since her 16, me 17. We were each others firsts.
Shes my soul mate. Maybe thats why biologically a mans testosterone levels are suspose to drop after 30ish so it reduces the libido. Maybe I'm messing with mother natures plan using testosterone.
I've joked about giving the wife a shot of test while shes sleeping, would that be assault and battery?
If I figure it out, I will defeniatly write that book and dedicate it to Presser!
Buffalo, I plan to stick around, not going to leave the wife, can't do it man, not in me, said I do for richer or poorer, sickness and health. We are high school sweathearts. Been together since her 16, me 17. We were each others firsts.
Shes my soul mate. Maybe thats why biologically a mans testosterone levels are suspose to drop after 30ish so it reduces the libido. Maybe I'm messing with mother natures plan using testosterone.
I've joked about giving the wife a shot of test while shes sleeping, would that be assault and battery?
georgeinaltus
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Its funny, cause the last time I can remember we had sex was after a party, and we were both drinking that night. So, the vodka does work!!
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