Musclechemistry Board Certified Member
Self talk: That little voice inside your head – you know it. That's the constant internal monologue that makes appraisals, passes judgments, and makes recommendations about what to do next. These thoughts and meta-cognitions are central to what make us human. Our self-talk helps us to function at work, in relationships, and in our daily lives. But sometimes (or often) self-talk can become overly-negative and critical, and can get in the way of performance, not to mention enjoyment.
One of the most common topics I speak on with athletes, executives, and lifters is the damaging effects of negative self-talk and how to correct it. Here are some common examples of negativity:
• Black or White Thinking: Thinking only in extremes (all-or-nothing) thinking.
• Arbitrary Inference: Generalizing one negative comment or experience to be representative of everything in your life.
• Mental Reading: Presuming you know what others are thinking.
• Catastrophizing: Thinking that the absolute worst thing that can happen, will happen.
• Emotional Reasoning: Presuming that feelings are facts.
• "Shoulds": Focusing on how things "should" have gone down, as opposed to how they actually are.
Any of these thought patterns sound familiar? Also known as cognitive distortions, these styles of thinking often lead to discouragement, frustration, anger, sadness, and a slew of other negative emotions. When you're discouraged and thinking negatively, you're less likely to take a risk, push yourself hard, or persist with a challenging goal. Recognizing your own tendencies to think negatively is the first step. Once you've identified some problematic thinking, consider the impact those thoughts have on your own feelings, and then in turn your emotions' impact on your behaviors.
This puts a lot of things in perspective. Some on us (i'm guilty of it myself) assume the worse to prepare ourselves for that "Just in case" moment. What we don't realize that by not looking for that silver lining for the grey cloud we open ourselves to all sorts of negativity. After that first negative thought, it starts to become second nature to self doubt and presume the worst and that's usually the downfall.
All I am saying is that it's easier to think of the negative rather that trying to find the one moment or reason that confirms that things will be alright.
There's a saying that "God helps those who helps themselves".
I like that god helps those who helps themselves. Or treat each other as you wish to be treated. All good I need help myself. I sometimes assume the worst and pray for the best. Nice post thank you!
It is so easy to let all the negativity take over. We need each other to help us stay positive!!