Your issues and your birth order....

[sweatmachine]

I an the first born of 2. I have a sisyer, we are 6 yrs apart.

I have a black and white-job Electronic Eng.
I seek a yes or no answer
Im very hard on myself
I like to be in control or give total control over to some one esle, nothing in between. I am not a follower.
Im very independant. I dont like to be one of the many or involved in fads.
I grew up in a military family moving 26 times in 18 yrs, which made me a very adjustable person and am easily placed into new environments with new people.

 

[GetnBigr]

They are closet homosexuals. LOL I couldn't resist.

Seriously, the middle child gets lost in the shuffle a bit. A known statistic is that they have the least amount of pictures in the album. The first one gets the most and the last one comes in second for some reason. They tend to isolate more and are more independent (sounds a bit like what you are saying).

They also end up being the best adjusted of the birth order - kind of an even keel as far as responsibility, creativeness, not as anal retentive, and good with money. Last borns are the worst at managing money and tend to have worse credit as far as stats go. Much more impulsive and spontaneous. First borns are extremely structured and routine. Sometimes to the point of being dysfunctional.

I would bet that there is a relationship between first borns/only children and anorexia, also, but I am too lazy to look into it.

Skip

i am definitely more independent than my brother. I have a lot of the traits of a first born according to what everyone is saying.

pretty cool how some of this stuff is true for most part

 

[Skip]

Yeah, it is quite interesting when you read the book because you see your family as he is explaining things. It isn't a science but it gives valuable insight for parents, too. We treat our kids different ways, whether we like it or not, depending on where they are in the birth order. This is the single most important thing as it is actually the parents that perpetuate most of this.

Example: If you have more than a couple kids, you know that you tried reeeeaaaalllly hard to get that first one to walk asap. You might have propped them up against the couch at 6 months or so, just to get em going. However, by the third kid or so, you just figure, "ah, forget it - they will walk when they wanna walk. the other two did". lol Or how about when one of them falls and cuts their head open? The first one you are running to the ER at 3 am for a scrape. The last one could be bleeding pretty good but you figure it isn't anything a little clean up, antibiotic ointment and a bandaid can't take care of.

The camera is fun as hell with the first kid. Gotta get those pics to the grandparents so they can oooo and ahhhhh. By the second or third kid, the camera thing gets kind of annoying and doesn't have the same "oooo and ahhhh" factor with the grandparents, anyway.

If you get the chance, pick up the book. It is interesting reading. I don't read much but I do have several bowel movements a day and prefer to read something to pass the time. LOL

Skip

 

[T82]

LOL, these are some pretty interesting insights Skip. SAve for the part about your bowel movements...............

 

[supersport]

I am a classic first born IMO-definately a yes or no kind of person.
Something interesting is I took a sociology class in college-name of the course was "marriage and the family" Supposedly the youngest sister of brothers makes the best wife-she is accustomed to doing things for her brothers. it was a very interesting class, but that is about all that I remember other than first born sisters tend to be bossy.

 

[Skip]

I am a classic first born IMO-definately a yes or no kind of person.
Something interesting is I took a sociology class in college-name of the course was "marriage and the family" Supposedly the youngest sister of brothers makes the best wife-she is accustomed to doing things for her brothers. it was a very interesting class, but that is about all that I remember other than first born sisters tend to be bossy.

I had a first born girlfriend for 8 years in high school and college. She was a complete bitch. I married a last born and she is cool as hell even after being together for 12 years and 3 kids.

Of course, we have our times but we are on an "upswing" right now so she is cool. lol

Skip

 

[SuzyQ]

I researched this issue some for a paper that I writing, and I found research that links third-born sons to homosexuality. And this is NOT a joke. Something to do with the chemicals in the mother's make-up while she is pregnant with the third son, after having two previous sons. I thought that was very interesting.

I am the third-born of four, but the only daughter. Classic middle child - self-sufficient, even-keeled, independent. I married a first-born - lucky for him, since I can keep his finances in order!