Girl situation....serious question

[Pharm_Fed]

So a little backstory. I have stretched ears and wear plugs. There is a website that sells plugs and they have 'street reps'. Basically you get a street rep code and give it out to people on a business card. When people order using your code you accumulate points and get free jewelry and stuff.

So, I get massages every once in a while and last time I was there I noticed the girl at the front counter also had plugs in her ears. So this time I brought her a card with my rep code, told her about the website and gave it to her. Harmless enough....I thought. So when I leave, she had moved registers and checked me out. She said since I gave her a business card she felt like she should give me one and she wrote down her personal phone number on it and gave it to me.

Don't get me wrong, this girl is hot, but I'm married so it ain't happening. I didn't really think my gesture could be interpreted as romantic in any way, but apparently it was so now I don't know what to do without making it awkward. I think I'm just going to call her in a few days and explain the situation. Hopefully I won't come off looking like an idiot. Unless someone else has a better suggestion...

 

[Metal85]

stretched ears and wear plugs? I am lost on this

 

[Ox 51]

If you don't want anything to happen, you are better off not calling her at all.

 

[Metal85]

oh u mean like where the earrings go lol

 

[Metal85]

yeah just dont call ditch that shit

 

[the4mandrummer]

Being genuine never hurts.

If it's on your heart, just shoot her a text or call her and explain that you appreciate the gesture, but you're married and you didn't want her to think you were leading her on.

Harmless and no one's left hanging.

Unless you have a jealous paranoid wife... then ditch that shit. lol

 

[Pharm_Fed]

If you don't want anything to happen, you are better off not calling her at all.

Why do you say that? Don't you think it would be awkward to continue going to this massage place and never call her?

oh u mean like where the earrings go lol

Like this bro.

Being genuine never hurts.

If it's on your heart, just shoot her a text or call her and explain that you appreciate the gesture, but you're married and you didn't want her to think you were leading her on.

Harmless and no one's left hanging.

Unless you have a jealous paranoid wife... then ditch that shit. lol

That's kind of what I'm thinking. She didn't do anything wrong and I don't think it's right to just leave her hanging. She's seems like a sweet girl, I don't want to hurt her feelings by avoiding the situation.

My wife would understand. As long as I do the right thing and am upfront with her there shouldn't be a problem.

 

[Ox 51]

It's going to be awkward either way. But, calling a girl who has an obvious interest in you is dangerous, no matter how good your intentions are.

 

[Pharm_Fed]

It's going to be awkward either way. But, calling a girl who has an obvious interest in you is dangerous, no matter how good your intentions are.

Maybe...it just seems like being honest and upfront is the right thing to do.

 

[NakedGod]

Wait until she confronts you face to face then explain to her you are married, unless your considering it then call because she then has your number too. I am only so strong of a man so I try not to let my pecker lead me into temptation. I say ditch that shit and by that I mean take her card and throw it out the window in the nearest ditch (you don't need your wife finding it). Otherwise you are just one fight away from a mistake. Just my thoughts

 

[Jpotch]

Tough one man. Follow ur gut instincts. Keep ur karma positive

 

[Lightsout]

If you love your wife bro do the right thing and just tell the girl you are married.. If you haven't done anything you shouldn't have anything to worry about..

But if you are like me and think with the wrong head.. You will be fucked in the long run..

 

[dorian123]

next time you see her just ask her if she checked out the site and then explain that you've been busy and didn't mean to be rude by not calling...drop in there that your wife has been keeping you busy

 

[Pharm_Fed]

Well I decided to send the girl a text telling her what's up. I thought that would be least awkward. She texted back it was no big deal. I went home and told me wife exactly what happened, showed her the text and gave her the card for her to dispose of. She thanked me for being honest and wasn't really upset at all. All in all, I think it went as well as it could have. Thanks for everyone's input.

 

[Jpotch]

Wow bro. Pretty impressive.

 

[Pharm_Fed]

Wow bro. Pretty impressive.

Thanks bro. I think I handled it pretty well.

 

[Jpotch]

U did. Better than i would have been able to

 

[dorian123]

that was handled like a pro

 

[Pharm_Fed]

that was handled like a pro

haha, thanks bro. I'd like to think I did the right thing.

 

[dorian123]

haha, thanks bro. I'd like to think I did the right thing.

you did 100% now your girl knows she can trust you and there is nothing to hide

the other girl knows that you are a stand up guy and she respects you