How do you nicely say "no thanks" to a persistent friend??

[The Dude]

My best friend has been out of bodybuilding since 07. He was never very successful and despite my half assed approach and very limited commitment I would still beat him back then. He now has a bad problem with the powder and I'm trying to encourage him to get help. The guy has the money to be a contender just based on his wealth, but he prefers that life I guess.
So he calls me today to tell me he has "5 guys begging him to train them for the Southern States". I just woke up so I answer "I hope they are damn near pro b/c it's in 10 days and I have striated glutes at 212. He thought it was 3 -4 months away even though i invited him. Now he gets all defensive and proceeds to tell me I should be 240lb and I need to do whatever I can to get their including Adrol, methyltest, and some other crap. We have always gone by the idea that you pick your people and listen to them. If you get solid advice from a reputable source you run it by your guy. I have a guy doing diet and drugs and he is on the same page as the awesome advice I got from Chris and Nuk. I've also got a posing guy that has an amazing eye for detail and nutrition as well as CH3NO2 and leatherhead, both of which know what to look for. I'm 10 days out. I couldn't be happier with my condition (although I'm battling a cold) and I'm not changing shit! He will take it personally. I don't know how to say it to him.

 

[Ox 51]

Are you saying he wants you to go back up 30 pounds for a show in 10 days? That sounds kind of crazy. Can you just tell him that it's too late to change strategies and you can't handle all the additional stress it would put on your body this close to the show?

 

[Rep]

you def dont need added stress this close. It will only harm your immune system. I get guys wanting me to help them but I have an easy out. Divorce situation, kids, work. You could say that right now you are too close to the show and need to focus. Tell him that even your wife has been upset with you bc you are semi-ignoring her or something. Apologize ahead of time. Please dont get distracted. I want you to be your best. Im rooting for you. No distractions now bro!!!!

 

[CH3NO2]

Are you saying he wants you to go back up 30 pounds for a show in 10 days? That sounds kind of crazy. Can you just tell him that it's too late to change strategies and you can't handle all the additional stress it would put on your body this close to the show?

I think he's saying that he should have come in at 240 for the show and its this dick heads way of trying to take a personal jab at the dude and calling him small.

Dude just do things your way no matter what. The ego on this guy just wants to take credit for what you have been doing over the last 19 weeks.

 

[The Dude]

I think he's saying that he should have come in at 240 for the show and its this dick heads way of trying to take a personal jab at the dude and calling him small.

Dude just do things your way no matter what. The ego on this guy just wants to take credit for what you have been doing over the last 19 weeks.

Yeah, you know who I'm talking about. The only time your weight matters is to determine what class you're in. If you don't have the conditioning, you don't have shit. It's still bothering me... and my cold turned into a sinus infection I think, but I have to do legs today and other than a little scratchiness in the throat and the brown snot I think I'm good so I'm moving onward. I may get an IV from Mike Tues just to be safe.
I didn't think he would say shit like that when he knows how much I've put into this and how much it means to me. He didn't even show up at the wedding.

 

[big in vegas]

Fuck him man, I can't stand guys like that. Some of my friends are similar to that (they aren't doing shit with their lives so they wanna put others down for doing what they are). You really need to just stay the course and forget he even talked about that. You guys can talk in 2 weeks. If he's got a problem with powder, let him deal with that and you can stick to what you're doing because in the end, you're going to be better ahead than he will