dakoteyah27
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Thats sounds real nice if you can both compromise. I wish you the best and hopefully you guys really don't get too deep with it off the bat.
question about true love?
- Thread starter irish2003
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Damn... I'm going through shit right now, too. This thread may actually help me, no matter which way things turn out. Best of luck, Irish... I hope you get everything you want, bro.
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OH man, where to begin...hmmm how about the beginning?
One thing stood out to me in this list: The little things really bother me
That is all this list is--the little things. Many people don't realize that that is all life is with someone--little things. And no one has a perfect list of little things. My wife and I don't. We actually share a lot of the same things on these lists, yet we've been married for almost 11 years now. The fact is, there is a lot of compromise in a relationship, and when you put the other person's happiness in front of your own and you WANT to, that's true love. The trick of it is that it must also balance with what makes YOU happy, and that is your partner must do the same and put your happiness in front of theirs. You discuss many things and arrive at a compromise. My wife doesn't like me being as big as I am, but she knows it makes me more confident and thus happier about myself so she lets me continue bodybuilding. I support her in other ways, for example, I will defer watching certain TV programs so she can watch what she wants to watch. That may seem very trivial and small, but all these little things--they add up, and they are what make the relationship. The trouble here I see is that she is having a hard time seeing past all the little things, and it's clear to me that you both love each other from what I see posted.
Steph said:
That feeling of having lost your partner when you're in love like that really is the worst feeling in the world. I don't think I could handle losing my wife, and I know she feels the same about me. A while ago, I had a severe case of food poisoning, and it scared her so much that she cried, "Don't leave me!" because I seemed like I could die from it to her.
We still get those times, too, where we think, "Wow, why are we still together," but then we remember to compromise.
I would agree with Steph that if you really love her, fight hard. Be willing to change some things for her without expecting anything in return. If there is something you need for your own happiness, explain gently why you need it and ask for her support. Hopefully, she can make it past the little things.
Good luck, bro, I wish you the best.
One thing stood out to me in this list: The little things really bother me
That is all this list is--the little things. Many people don't realize that that is all life is with someone--little things. And no one has a perfect list of little things. My wife and I don't. We actually share a lot of the same things on these lists, yet we've been married for almost 11 years now. The fact is, there is a lot of compromise in a relationship, and when you put the other person's happiness in front of your own and you WANT to, that's true love. The trick of it is that it must also balance with what makes YOU happy, and that is your partner must do the same and put your happiness in front of theirs. You discuss many things and arrive at a compromise. My wife doesn't like me being as big as I am, but she knows it makes me more confident and thus happier about myself so she lets me continue bodybuilding. I support her in other ways, for example, I will defer watching certain TV programs so she can watch what she wants to watch. That may seem very trivial and small, but all these little things--they add up, and they are what make the relationship. The trouble here I see is that she is having a hard time seeing past all the little things, and it's clear to me that you both love each other from what I see posted.
Steph said:
That feeling of having lost your partner when you're in love like that really is the worst feeling in the world. I don't think I could handle losing my wife, and I know she feels the same about me. A while ago, I had a severe case of food poisoning, and it scared her so much that she cried, "Don't leave me!" because I seemed like I could die from it to her.
We still get those times, too, where we think, "Wow, why are we still together," but then we remember to compromise.
I would agree with Steph that if you really love her, fight hard. Be willing to change some things for her without expecting anything in return. If there is something you need for your own happiness, explain gently why you need it and ask for her support. Hopefully, she can make it past the little things.
Good luck, bro, I wish you the best.
irish2003
MuscleChemistry Registered Member
all I can say is that the makeup sex was amazing!.....i have to put off training until tomorrow now!
we've decided that we both need to take care of our personal stuff first and see each other second....at least for now....that's a good thing because we both have job hunts, i'm looking at going to school in the fall for radiography, and bills that are consuming us right now.....we're still seeing each other just we're gonna go out more with each other AND with our friends and not just sit around all the time miserable.....we're gonna try and make it work....this way if it doesn't, at least we can say we put in our best effort.....she was a wreck when she came to see me today......she really is scared to be loved and is down because of her job.....she also admitted she needs to get away from her friends....they really don't want her with me, but love prevails!....so she's working on those things and i'm making an effort to improve her dislikes without changing who I am as a person.......also she said she doesn't care about the aas.....my friend Amy jumped to conclusions and told me she was upset when she wasn't......so I'm still cruising for a few weeks and then it's cutter time....i figured I already got a good start losing weight from stress from her this last week!.....so she's coming back to spend the night again and celebrate my birthday friday.....my pics for the cutter will be up after a night of drinking so not really the best "before" pics as i'll already be dehydrated......
we've decided that we both need to take care of our personal stuff first and see each other second....at least for now....that's a good thing because we both have job hunts, i'm looking at going to school in the fall for radiography, and bills that are consuming us right now.....we're still seeing each other just we're gonna go out more with each other AND with our friends and not just sit around all the time miserable.....we're gonna try and make it work....this way if it doesn't, at least we can say we put in our best effort.....she was a wreck when she came to see me today......she really is scared to be loved and is down because of her job.....she also admitted she needs to get away from her friends....they really don't want her with me, but love prevails!....so she's working on those things and i'm making an effort to improve her dislikes without changing who I am as a person.......also she said she doesn't care about the aas.....my friend Amy jumped to conclusions and told me she was upset when she wasn't......so I'm still cruising for a few weeks and then it's cutter time....i figured I already got a good start losing weight from stress from her this last week!.....so she's coming back to spend the night again and celebrate my birthday friday.....my pics for the cutter will be up after a night of drinking so not really the best "before" pics as i'll already be dehydrated......
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saudades
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Nice, bro, glad to hear.
The Dude
MuscleChemistry Registered Member
I can't give much advice on "True Love" as I was sure with all my heart that my exwife was the one. She destroyed some of me that will never come back. I'm forever a changed person. In your case I think you are doing everything right. Don't walk away and wonder what if. School, money, and jobs are real relationship killers, if you can make it through than nothing will seperate you guys. Its like bodybuilding... sometimes you have to find out how strong you really are.
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