once again thanks bro's, I appreciate everyone's help, to give you all an update, once last week we had the big fight....I went with my buddies to wal-mart, and I came across one of my old high school friends, keep in mind now that I am not that old...I am only 21....however I wanted to go out with this girl in High School but was never able to....not saying I didn't try...but her best friend liked me instead, however she came out of nowhere and gave me a hug..and started talking to me...about her problems that she had broken up with her bofriend about 4 months ago...however she has been living with this guy...and well I told her my story, because she heard I was getting married....and then she was like " no way..she told you this guy was attractive" I was like "yes" she said" Is she stupid? you don't say that to someone that you love" so u know things picked up from there, for the next 45 minutes and then after that....I said well as long as you are happy...and she replied yea...I guess...so she was not happy...and I didn't want to ask her out right then and there..and of course that time, she said that she would call me...and I gave her my number, and she called last night, but I was at the gym....I called her back...and I guess she called from her mom's house, because I woke up her mom, p.s.(her mom loves me) I went to a party with her at her house when I was 15....so she thinks I am great, however I woke her up..and apologized and said I was just returning the call..and she got all excited and she said that she would call Jennifer and let her know...she took my cell number and everything......so we will see....