Divorce Anyone?

[Rep]

I'm in the sad time now. My kids are keeping me busy and you guys are helping a lot. I realized that when I pursued by rental properties, trying to get out of my other jib, I have forgotton about my wife. I geuss I was really working 80+hrs per week and trying to be a great dad. She came last. I also gave up lifting which was bad. In all that, freinds move. I am starting over completely. I will buckle down starting today. I did workout last night but I couldnt get a pump. My mind wasnt in it. I think dude is right. I need a training partner and someone to hang out with and motivate me. Thanks guys,

 

[dreww]

coming from a divorced home early in my life, i will say that being a good father should come first. They will always be your kids....but you're wife wont always be your wife, your boss wont always be your boss, and your friends wont always be your friends.

I had one parent step up (thank god) and one parent stepped out.

 

[Rep]

great advice dreww. I am lucky that my son thinks the world of me but my daughter hates me now b/c she feels that I am screwing her mother financially. It's not true but I can't make her see it. In time, I hope to show her the truth.

 

[The Dude]

great advice dreww. I am lucky that my son thinks the world of me but my daughter hates me now b/c she feels that I am screwing her mother financially. It's not true but I can't make her see it. In time, I hope to show her the truth.

I'm not making light of the situation with your daughter, but didn't you say she was a teenager? If so, she's going to find a reason to hate you for the next few years anyway. She will see the truth as she matures.

 

[Rep]

Dude, Your right. She's in 9th grade and has withdrawn naturally but my wife is using that against me. She is including my daughter in "bash daddy". I think it's real unhealthy mentally for my daughter to go through anymore than she needs to. I feel that I have put my heart into my kids and my daughter will see that once time passes. One messed up part is that I still Love my wife and she rented a house 1 mile away. That's toooo close. It's so fucked up, please excuse my language but just like in the movies, they have half the money and all the pussy. It's just messed up how crazy a women can make you. Thanks again guys

 

[The Dude]

Dude, Your right. She's in 9th grade and has withdrawn naturally but my wife is using that against me. She is including my daughter in "bash daddy". I think it's real unhealthy mentally for my daughter to go through anymore than she needs to. I feel that I have put my heart into my kids and my daughter will see that once time passes. One messed up part is that I still Love my wife and she rented a house 1 mile away. That's toooo close. It's so fucked up, please excuse my language but just like in the movies, they have half the money and all the pussy. It's just messed up how crazy a women can make you. Thanks again guys

It's good to see you're thinking clearly. I'm not going to ask you to divulge the circumstances surrounding your current situation as that is totally private, but you are seeing things clearly and putting one foot in front of the other. You're doing better than I did at this stage. You seem like a good man and a great father. I truly believe that although you may go through some seemingly disastrous experiences in life, if you stay the course you will be rewarded. I can't even tell you how severe and how rock bottom I have hit on several occasions. I knew there was no chance on god's green earth that I was going to make it through, but EVERYTIME I stayed the course and put one foot in front of the other and I know it sounds like I'm preaching, but through some divine last minute miracle I ended up on top. It continues to this day. You can't show that you are a good man unless given the opportunity. This is your opportunity.

 

[mcgaret]

get a good lawyer now, do not start drinking it makes everything worse, listen to what the lawyer says

very smart advice. I am married w/two girls, 12 and almost 16. Still
married but have seen a LOT of divorces w/kids. You say you still
love your wife but love and hate are very close. You will probably go
thru a time where you think you cant live without her and the next day
HATE her, and back and forth ect. My sugestion is, that if and when
that time comes, remember to "love your kids more then you hate your
wife". I have seen too many time where there is so much hate between
the parents they use the kids against each other. What I am trying to
say is always put your kids first. Sounds like you already do, but if
things get ugly keep remembering that. Luck bro. (and it is good to
have a place to 'vent', otherwise you carry it around inside)

 

[Rep]

Yeh, I have been super involved iwth my son. I cant go a day without seeing him. He's my best buddy. A Love him so much!! I wish it could be different. Lifes a Bitch at times. I worked so hard to provide and care. I just dont know how much I could have done differently.

 

[Presser]

Dude, Your right. She's in 9th grade and has withdrawn naturally but my wife is using that against me. She is including my daughter in "bash daddy". I think it's real unhealthy mentally for my daughter to go through anymore than she needs to. I feel that I have put my heart into my kids and my daughter will see that once time passes. One messed up part is that I still Love my wife and she rented a house 1 mile away. That's toooo close. It's so fucked up, please excuse my language but just like in the movies, they have half the money and all the pussy. It's just messed up how crazy a women can make you. Thanks again guys

Your daughter will see right through all that "bash daddy" bullshit in due time brutha! My mother did the same shit to me when I was young and they were split and i can tell you first hand that your daughter will resent your wife later in life if she keeps doing that, cuase in time ur daughter will be old enough to know whats going on and realize what went on was wrong and resent her mother for taking away what could be good quality time spent with dad.

Also I have a 14 yr old daughter from an ex, Not married but we were together ten years, anyhow as dude said your daughter is at that age bro just like mine is, and its like pulling teeth anymore to get her to come spend the weekend with me.

Oh and I think a workout partner would be a great benefit for you bro! Just someone else to talk to period. I am glad you atleast have this site and this post bro, cause i cant tell you how many times over the years I have turned to this site and these guys to help get through tough times, So I am glad you here brutha!!!!!:thumbsup:

 

[Rep]

My 5 year old thinks its a game. He doesnt get it yet. She moved into a house 1 mile away. I dont want her that close. I think intensive therapy will be needed after this. "Lifes like a box of chocolates, never know what your gonna get:.

 

[Rep]

well the bitch is now going after every cent she can find. Should I claim backruptcy and hurt both of our credits or would you guys pay this bitch?? If I file bankruptcy, it might hurt my kids lifestyle and I would have to move out and rent. Im so fucking pissed, hurt, stressed. I dont want to hand her money she doesnt deserve, especially since she makes a 6 figure income herself. The greedy bitch!!!!

 

[omni]

No kids. Was married 14 years. Had a great job. She left me for my sisters husband. I was so devastated that I walked away from my house, truck, Lexus...Everything. I ended up homeless although I still had my job. I worked everyday and then cleaned up at the gym. I just didn't feel like there was anywhere I wanted to be anymore. I couldn't imagine having kids through it all. I feel bad for you. My advice is not to do what I did and do your best to keep your head straight and focused for your son. I think your daughter will come around eventually. Btw my x bought a 5000 square foot home on my hard work and money(in California thats like a million dollar home)Man I feel for you.

 

[The Dude]

well the bitch is now going after every cent she can find. Should I claim backruptcy and hurt both of our credits or would you guys pay this bitch?? If I file bankruptcy, it might hurt my kids lifestyle and I would have to move out and rent. Im so fucking pissed, hurt, stressed. I dont want to hand her money she doesnt deserve, especially since she makes a 6 figure income herself. The greedy bitch!!!!

Don't give that bitch shit! They count on you doing that after they stomp on your heart. Fight her tooth and nail. You will both end up with 50% and her income will be factored in. Fuck her! My ex did the same shit and I cried while she emptied out $247,000 in cash! I'm poor now, but I made the choice so I'm dealing with it. Get a good lawyer and keep your mouth shut and your hands clean.

 

[Rep]

Thanks Guys. She is trying to take it all. She's less emotional which giver her the lead. I am starting to use my brain and not my heart. Thanks