my dating life (I just need to vent a little)

[cybersteffan]

Man it's getting even more frustrating. There is one girl I really like a lot and she is awesomely pretty. Way outta my leaugue actually. For some reason she does put effort into me. She calls all the damn time and sends tons of mails and sms's. We went out a couple a times too. But she is givin so damn opposite signals. Like tonight when I woke up to pee at 4 am I had an sms in which she said that she couldn't sleep and that she probably would if she didn't have to sleep alone. But when I reacted she all of a sudden withdrew and said she had no one or anything specific in mind when she said that. Aw c'mon why sent such a message to 'just a friend' at 4 am?

The other day I sent her the message that I would have liked to kiss her, but was afraid to get a black eye out of it. She replied I wouldn't have gotten a black eye at all. So I replied that I would go for that kiss next time than. She answered that it was not because she wouldn't hit me, she'd allow me to kiss her.

Man I hate these mixed feeling. She messing with me and I hate that. She's constantly begging for my attention, but everytime she gets it, she holds me off saying we're just friend. Aaarrggghhh.

Anyway, I got date 16 coming up tonight. Let's see how this one checks out

 

[Bigup]

Just tell her straight. Women like that f*ck with your head by leading you on etc. She has the power because you respond to her flirtations. Next time she sends you an email or sms with something like, "i cant sleep alone" tell her to get a fcuking teddy bear or a dildo. The only reason she's doing it is cos you're letting her. Turn the tables on her and make her chase you and you'll have her eating out of the palm of your hand or even better, your crotch!

 

[cybersteffan]

Tnx bigup. I was just typing a mail in which I was gonna tell her how I felt for her. But I guess your right. I wont send the mail. I'll try to let her chase after me, although she has so much guy's running after her, I don't really think she's gonna put effort in me.

 

[Bigup]

Well im in the same position as you bro. Its taken me a year to realise what to do and now i know. If its gonna happen it will happen, you cant worry about it all the time. You'll just end up miserable.

 

[GetnBigr]

cyber- don't respond to that girl for a few days and when she asks why you've been avoiding her tell her this: tell her you've gone out with a few other girls, and you wanted more than a casual relationship with her, and she doesn't want that then move on.

p.s. and if you ever get the change to do her, take advantage of it since she played all those games with you

good luck

 

[babysiren]

cyber- don't respond to that girl for a few days and when she asks why you've been avoiding her tell her this: tell her you've gone out with a few other girls, and you wanted more than a casual relationship with her, and she doesn't want that then move on.

p.s. and if you ever get the change to do her, take advantage of it since she played all those games with you

good luck

I agree with GetnBigr...From a woman's point of view.. I think she seems like she's confused on what she wants from you, whether it be just friends, or more....Don't let her play you like that....If she wants to be with you, she should know...you shouldn't wait around for her to figure it out...Just keep going about what you were doing before....and if it's meant to be, she'll come around, and you get to decide if you want to be with her...

 

[cybersteffan]

Tnx siren. I gues you're right. I'll try it your way and see how it works out. Already got a new date tonight so life is moving on.

 

[highlandgamer]

Well cyber I say you should whore while the whorin is good. get laid as much as you can right now and it wil help you to see what it is that you really want and you will konw when that one comes along.

As for that girl that is f'in with your head, ignore it and don't let it get to you. the get a teddybear or a dildo comment is the type of mentality you must have when dealing with girls like her. Some will say she is confused but she knows exactly what to do to get you twisted around her finger. If you show her a little don't give a shit atitude then she will come crawling to you with the respect you deserve.

You sound like a good guy not wanting to hurt people and wanting to treat all with respect. but remember that somethings (people) are not respectable and therefore do not deserve to be treated with respect.

 

[BiggerStronger]

Everyone's right. You should just go out and date some other girls. If you have the mentality that you're just going out to have a good time, no strings attached then you will start to feel better about the whole dating thing. It seems to me the moment that I have stopped going after a girl they usually come back twice as strong as before and are usually down for business....but by that time I usually have dated a few different girls with my adjusted attitude so I end up keeping my options open. Once you find the right one everything will fall into place.

Remember girls are attracted to something that takes a little work to get (don't go overboard). Girls don't like clingy guys. Girls will get scared off by guys are too serious from the get go. Let things develope. Good luck.

 

[cybersteffan]

Well I told the girl that I had another date tonight. She was pretty shocked and upsett. I told her she had no right, since she was the one who didn't want me. She admitted she really liked me but that there was no spark. And so I said I wasn't going to bother myself with her anymore untill she figured out what she wanted and that I was just gonna keep on dating.

Anyway, I accomplished this because off all you peoples advice and I just wanted to say thanks to you all, it was very appreciated.

The date went quite ok. No fireworks, but definitely repeatable.

I am really glad it's over and that things are back to what they were.

 

[violator]

i understand what you mean. i have never dated. i have had 3 serious relationships since i have been out of high school. im 25 now and just starting to date. i have yet to have a match. i have only been on about 5 dates in the past 5 months.

im not really looking for a girlfriend right now. i just got out of a relationship of 2 yeas. actually, not just out of it, but it feels like it. we have been broke up for about 9 months. im happy being single. if i met a girl, great. im not on the hunt though.

 

[cybersteffan]

Well I must say thanks to all of you. I followed your advice and played hard to get with the beautifull girl and she caved in after one day. I just spend the night with her. She 's real nice and I think I am gonna be settle for a while.

This means posts will go down off course!

Tnx to all of you!!

 

[morbid316]

screw the woman before they end up screwing you. Trust me woman are worse then men they will use you to there full extent they will use you like a piece of meat and when they are done they will spit you out.

If you fall for a woman you are really screwed because thats when she will really mess you over. It happened to me if you can belive it LOL.

WOMAN ARE WORSE THEN US MEN TRUST ME THEY JUST DON"T TALK ABOUT IT LIKE WE DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[mailboxkillR]

Yea rigth posts go down you'll have a lap top in the bathroom posting how many times you banged her tonight you little post whore slut

 

[cybersteffan]

Yea rigth posts go down you'll have a lap top in the bathroom posting how many times you banged her tonight you little post whore slut

No I have no lap top. I am putting markings on the bathroom wall however, counting the number of times I banged her. Banging is by the way the only thing we do. I don't think this is going anywhere than just a sexual relationship.

 

[superchicken]

even now that you hooked up, still do things to remind her everyday that SHE is lucky to be with YOU. not vice versa.

 

[Vardok]

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